In Limbo With This Relationships - What to Do?

by Jennifer
(Anoka, MN)

I love my fiance of 9 years so much I understand his job is hard and I worry about him all the time. But he thinks I don't care cause I don't call him all the time, he calls me.

I'm distracted with our girls or with chores or if I am out. When he is home he says I don't show him enough affection and attention. We have 2 girls ages 7 & 2. I get between 4-6 hours of sleep everyday. He says he shows me affection a lot by giving me a kiss and hug.

All I want is more appreciation and when he is home to be home with us.

He thinks I don't appreciate anything he gives me. Every vehicle he buys I don't appreciate it because I make one negative remark. I did forget to wish him Happy Father's Day early in the day but did say it at night and I am just horrible.

I have apologized several times, but not good enough. When he is home he drinks almost a 18 pack of beer everyday he is home.

Why show affection to someone who is hammered. We never go anywhere just the two of us.