My Boss & Co-Worker Wants To Kill My Husband & I Don't Blame Them
I am a dental hygienist at a dental office in which my boss is a dentist along with his son who also is a dentist, his wife, who is the office manager & his daughter who just graduated last year from high school as one of the receptionists.
I was in one of the exam rooms cleaning a patient's teeth when all of a sudden my boss's daughter started to yell & curse out my husband over the phone, which at the time I did not know he was the one she was cursing at & my boss came running out & said to his daughter yo, yo, you, what the hell are you doing & she said this jerk called me a c**t & called me a fat a** all because I would not get his wife (me) out of the exam room when he wanted it to happen.
Well my husband did not hear her put him on speaker because of his loud ranting & when my boss heard it, he told my husband he was no longer a patient here. (My husband and Mom are patients there.) My husband asked why & my boss said he would not accept that language addressed to his daughter.
I was a dental hygienist at this office before my husband & I got married 5 years ago & as a matter of fact since my father was dead at the time of my wedding, my boss told my Mom that he would walk me down the aisle & at the time of our wedding my husband was not an over the road truck driver.
He was at a job that did not pay well, so he left & then went to a company that paid well, but they moved to California & my husband & I did not want to move to California since my Mom is here & his parents are dead due to an auto accident.
My boss told me if he knew ahead of time that my husband would turn into this monster, he would have never walked me down the aisle & make sure I would not have married him. My husband was fine at his other jobs until 2 years ago when he got around some questionable other truck drivers & he is being guided or influenced by these other questionables.
My husband has been doing trucking for 5 years & during that time, he has always been treated very good at home, I always made sure his needs were met & I cooked for him, did his laundry & made sure his truck was full of snacks & water & soda.
What another thing is very sad over is we have a 20 month old son & since he blasted me on the phone over this one incident which I will bring up shortly, he no longer calls us nor does he want to talk to us. Oh before I forget, I got the name of this forum from one of my patients that I was cleaning her teeth when the battle went on with my husband & my boss & his daughter, she told me her daughter was once married to an OTR driver & it got so bad she divorced him but he's sitting in prison because he beat her & the kids because he took his frustrations out on them but this patient did warn me that once I post my story, I may get positive comments & yet I may get negative comments from people on here & he does not want to go to a counselor because he feels he does no wrong.
I am not going by myself, what's the purpose of a one-sided when I was told the counselor will tell me you can't change nobody but yourself & why should I arrange my life so I don't have my husband blow up like an out of control volcano. But I did say I would mention what caused this argument.
Well 2 weeks ago when I left work, I stopped off at the gas station to fill up my car before I went to my Mom's to pick up my son, well this other woman started to argue with me saying she got there first at the tank & I had to go in & get the manager & she handled it very well.
Well later that night when my husband called me, he asked me how my day was & I laughed & I told him oh wait till you hear about my incident at the pumps, well out of the blue, he starts yelling & ranting at me & he called the manager of the gas station where I got my gas a c**t, there's that terrible word again, & he said that c**t should have called the cops, that c**t works for you, & all I said to him was I am getting fed up with you using that terrible word & he never used the C word till he became an OTR trucker.
Well he says to me in a yelling angry voice then don't call me with your F***ing problems (WTF), I said to him hey, you called me & he has many times called me at work complaining of his fleet manager & I listened & tried to calm him, so then he heard my son, his son too, laughing & giggling in the background over a tv show & my husband says to me doesn't he ever shut up, every time I call, he's never quiet (WTF).
I said he's 20 months old, he said I don't care, can't he be quiet for once in a while, I told him he's having a fun time watching a show, he says you know what I don;t wanna hear it, I am tired of this, I am done, I have had it.
For Mother's Day, I did not get no phone call, but only a brief text message saying Happy Mother's Day to me & he usually sent my Mom a wish, nothing. Both my Mom & my co-workers said
he either has a woman or he did have one & feels guilty & is blaming you.
This has been going on for 2 weeks now & I did make a phone call to him & I said to him this has been going on too long, we need to talk, he hung up on me. Ok, I called back, in a distant different tone of voice like I am a total stranger, he asks me why are you nitpicking with me, why are you starting your s**t with me.
I blocked him from my social media since he was in it because I felt why have him in it if he's not going to treat me like I am his wife, well he leaves a voicemail on my phone yelling, screaming, ranting saying I hope you had a very nice Mother's Day but you wanna block me, well you have a great life & at work.
He called me while I was doing a patient's teeth, he did not call me on my cell phone but he went thru the boss's daughter again & she told him I can't leave the patient & talk to him, she would give me the message, he says to her oh F**K the patient, that patient can wait, & he told her he comes first, not that patient.
So we each have intercom systems in each exam room & in my room she says your highway cowboy is on the phone doing Sharia Law because I say this because he has no respect for women! A cashier that I usually talk to at the supermarket told me when my husband came into the supermarket & all because she bagged his stuff the wrong way, he yelled at her & called her a stupid C**T that should be fired.
Well the manager intervened & told him that mouth is not tolerable, well since the manager was a man, my husband backed down, he apologized to the manager since he was a man, but not to the female cashier, she told me WTH is wrong with these truck drivers, what are the male drivers a man's man that they only esteem the men & us women are submissive sub standards.
Well the cashier said she did not put up with it, she told my husband to remember that he came out of a C**T, & the manager did not reprimand her for that.
Now I have no clue why he's acting this way, like I said, I treat him good, but I have been told that men get these jobs because the road is an ocean & all the women out here are the fish, no the saying, there's plenty of fish in the sea, but even if he's not cheating, still things will never be the same because the next time he comes home, I may be afraid to have sex with him for fear of a disease.
I have heard a man can have a sexual disease, but be a carrier meaning his partner will break out with the disease & show symptoms but he won't, & even if you do not have intercourse, you can still get a sexual disease doing oral sex , my boss's wife suggested me using a dental dam if I perform oral sex on my husband!
Now I am getting counseled by both my Mom & my co-workers to get a damn divorce from him & I told them it won't be that easy because my husband can say he wants a divorce & do things but I can't because he's the man & I am the woman & I am afraid of these other deviant truck driver friends that he is consorting with that seem to be his mentors or guides.
If they should have deliveries in my city & have a layover, my husband can give them my address or my Mom's address if he gets jilted. I did not want him to be a truck driver but since he went thru 2 jobs, several people told him to do trucking because that is a steady job, you will never get laid off or get fired & you will make a boatload of money (yeah right, each & every week he's only clearing $300 a week because he is solo, he used to be team but he has went thru 4 team drivers that left him because of his nasty personality & his mouth).
And when he was home for home time about 6 months ago, I was sick as a dog & my Mom had my son at her place so he would not get sick, but I was on antibiotics & I had the chills, throwing up, etc. Well my husband wanted me to walk around stark a** naked & wanted to see my boobs bounce around since I am busty & I told him I have the chills & I am sick, well that night he got up in the middle of the night because his sleep schedule is messed up being over the road.
Well I got woken up by clicking of his phone when he was watching tv, well he comes back to bed, & starts to try to take off my nightgown & I tightened my arm to my chest thinking he would know I was not in the mood, he did it harder & I could hear some of the nightgown ripping so he could get to my breast & then he starts saying oh man look at those t**s (slang word for a woman's breast) & telling me he was dreaming of my breasts all along.
I told him I did not plan on me getting sick & it was not my fault that I happened to get sick around the time for his home time. And what I found very rude, here I am feeling like I am dying from my sick condition & he was waking me up several times a night at all hours & making sure he got what he wanted & then he wanted to know why was I groggy, unreal.