Just tired of it. Life as a truckers wife sucks.

It sucks. If your man can do something else, do it. Our problem is there is no other job that will pay our bills. I quit my job a yr ago to stay home with our 3, 4 and 8 yr old. I didnt make enough to even contribute towards bills. I am so tired. The only family I have that helps is the great grandparents. Not only them but I get so so so tired of asking people to help. We live in an old farm house, something is always breaking down. There are so many things that need done for the past year, that i dont think will ever get done. It just gets tiring. My husband has drove a truck for 8 yrs. Most of the time I dont have any motivation to get anything beyond what I have to do done. My friends dont understand. You dont get used to it, I think it just gets worse. There is nothing good about it. Most of the time I have a negative attitude because I have no help. I beleive there are people out there that are looking for you to do something wrong. I try to keep my kids in activities so they can experience things, but it tires me out a lot. Right now, Im really down. Things need to change soon. Anyone out there know what Im saying. I need help. How do I stay positive/motivated?

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Dec 11, 2009
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I do understand
by: MD

Hi Ladies
The hardest part about being a Trucker's Wife is the time you are apart. I am a OTR trucker driver I am also a Female out here and I too have someone at home but I am so blessed that she understands and knows the business. The best advise I can give you is learn the business get involved get a map book help him talk about his day it is very hard out here for all of us we are out riskig our lives everyday. If you have kids get them involved get a big map track him educate you kids have them see te US through you husband talk abou the state that he's dropping or picking up. Leave out any kind of Neg. stuff we have to have a clear head sitting in the chair. We all have problems we all have money problems are we driving anough miles to make payments. So when your husband calls be supportive Ladies out here all we have for safe haven is our families and friends. As soon as you understand the business and relize we are out to make money for or families. To be honest with you be blessed he has a job be thankful for what you have not what yo dont have I am here for all our you need to vent email me at bikerlady06 at gmail dot com Please all of you have a nice holiday and god bless
MD

Dec 11, 2009
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by: Jennifer S

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We have a chat room- but with people doing their own thing, I did not find it to be very helpful.

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Dec 11, 2009
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Truckers wives
by: Jennifer S

You are 100% Right, it does suck! HOWEVER!!! I must warn you the longer you focus on how badly it sucks, the more you will lose in your life.

Meaning, enjoyable time spent while he is home. Time spent with your kids in a positive light.

I understand the "just tired." EVERY drives wife get there- We get tired of the long lonely nights, the things around the house breaking, being alone when something really bad happens- and your left to deal with it all alone.

You need to find a way to be independent, and change your mind set.

It is as easy as What Charles Swindel Says- This one quote has gotten me through some of the darkest and bleakest times in my life. I hope you will copy it, place it ALL over your house, and read it over and over again! Putting it into effect in your life will help you immensely!

“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes.”

Dec 09, 2009
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Reviving Your Spirits as a truckers wife
by: Hervy

As you read around you'll see that you are not alone feeling down as a truckers wife. In fact much of what your going through is a common story I hear from truckers wives.

This is advice for you and all ladies at home dealing with life with your spouse over the road.

1. First make sure you are getting proper nutrition.
I know many will take that as a joke but a bad diet will contribute to depression, lack of energy and poor health.

2. If you can try to get some exercise. Maybe your local gym has groups for fun fitness classes or something. This seems like a joke to some but doing this will not only give you energy and make you feel better but it will FIGHT depression and enable you to think better. Not to mention giving you an overall positive feeling about yourself. PLUS when your husband ask you why, tell him you want to spice up your love life. (That will only make him feel good about your relationship and be more willing to contribute when he can)

3. Talk to your husband about your finances. Is he wasting money on the road? To get out of the cycle you guys are in, you can't just keep doing the same thing you have been doing. Unnecessary expenses should be cut and money set aside for your upgrade fund. (Whatever your goals are for the next step). Whether you need to move to a better place, buy a house, etc.

4. Evaluate what skills, hobbies, or past experiences you have that others may need. You may be able to provide these skills at an increase value than what is currently offered.

Print up some flyers and pass them out about providing training or products that you can offer to bring in some extra income.

5. First immediately go out and buy (wait I am thinking old school...). Google Motivation Tony Evans or Motivation Stephen Covey, or Pastor Paul Shepard or Zig Ziglar.

Now why is this important? Because life is not fair and we encounter things just about everyday that we could look at from a negative standpoint and sometimes it's hard not to especially when we are suffering. Some motivational speakers really hit home with the right perspective on life and forces you to see things from a better angle. This keeps a positivity at the forefront of your thought process which allows you to work through your problems instead of curling up in a ball and feeling hopeless as we are so inclined to do.

Life can seem overwhelming. We all need help and the perspective of others who are not connected to our specific issues but yet have insight on the common root element of the issues.

Also, get around positive people. They will probably be at the gym or at the local S.C.O.R.E
chapter (that is a place that provides free advice for starting your own business should your flyers take your money making plans off)

Hope this helps a little

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