Is it a requirement that all OTR truck drivers need to come home for home time after awhile?

It seems as though when my husband is away over the road, both myself & the kids are very happy campers! And while my husband calls every day, he professes his love for us & he really misses us.

Now, every time he comes home for home time which is every 3-4 months, it turns into a battlefield! The slightest little thing the kids do, it upsets him & he yells & screams at them.

He even screams & says this to the kids "What is your F***ING problem while all the windows are open & all the neighbors can hear him & the kids at a screaming match & then I yell at him telling him don't you dare cuss & scream at the kids for no reason & when I tell him we need to talk, he screams at me & says I am treating him like a kid because I say we need to talk & no one please tell me to go to counseling. That won't work. He won't go and I will not go by myself!

He was home a month ago & had to come back home this time for his DOT physical & renew his license & like I said he does not want to talk things over but just sweep things under the rug but had the gall to want to be romantic & I pushed him away & he says to me I can stay mad at him forever.

Hey it's not going to ruin my Mother's Day because my sister & her kids are picking me up & my kids Sunday morning & we will be having a great day!

Then my husband says he can't wait to leave on Monday to go back on the road & I told him yeah either can me & the kids wait! My sister told me that she works with a girl that told her her brother is an OTR truck driver & he can get any woman for free so my sister told me to refrain from having sex with him for my health & safety.

She told me she told her coworker & she told her brother trucker about my husband's behavior & he told her sister, "yep, that is typical OTR trucker behavior because why should they come home, when they can get anything while out on the road & that it is a 100% guarantee he is cheating & just using me as a backup while he's home because he left his OTR bitch behind"!

Plus the phone records show he talks a lot more to other truck drivers than he does with me or the kids. He also got into a pissing contest with a neighbor that threatened him & the truck & the neighbor told him he would deck him & told him that all he is is an OTR scant chaser!

So basically if my husband stayed out & away FOREVER would be great because the kids would not derail when he's home & I would be stress free!

Is this the truck driving way, to be domineering & controlling? To me for him to scream & yell at me & the kids at the top of his lungs right by the window sounds like he wants to be the control freak!

I even told him that both me & the kids are losing our love for him! I will truthfully say that I feel instead of falling deeply in love with him, I am falling deeply in anger & resentment & by him unable to want to talk, these emotions will turn into hate! And he says what did he do, he did nothing wrong according to him!

And I am to the point that if he is cheating behind my back, so what! Now he was not like this before he did truck driving! So I would like to know can a OTR driver stay out indefinitely?

My sister has a neighbor whose husband, who is dead now, was an OTR truck driver & stayed out for 16 years before coming home to see his wife & daughter! Wow, me & the kids would really be delighted!