I like this trucker guy, he seems to like me too, how do I get him to date me?

by Maria
(NJ)

Hi...I will try my best to keep this brief but no promises lol.....

I met this trucker guy by chance online a couple of months ago. I wasn't expecting anything to come of it when we met in person. We met cuz we both wanted/needed sex..just being honest...
We really clicked....

He was really into me, calling me pet names and he told me I should sleep over when I'm at his house at nights so I don't have to drive home tired. So that's what I've been doing.

He suddenly stopped calling me pet names...I thought it might be cuz he met someone else but I'm pretty certain that isn't the case.

I know I overwhelmed him with text messages and mushy kindness (he called them crazy texts) and then he still told me to come over that night so I did.

I really like this guy a lot!! We seem to be very compatible with a lot of things. He is always on the road!!! It seems like he lives and breathes trucking. I am more then OK with that though, I've never been involved with a trucker so I'm not sure how to go about getting him to actually date me??

His house is pretty big and it's in absolute shambles!!! Lol

But he is very neat and organized with his work stuff (the way he packs his suitcases when he is going away and the way he is so clean and neat with his every day work uniform) he def. Loves his job!!!!

I want him to like ME enough to date me......I toned down the texting, I texted him 3 times since I last saw him about a week ago....he has a lot of BS going on in his personal life with his kid and his kids mother and when I asked him why he is single he basically said it's because he keeps finding the wrong girls to date and he tired of it.....

Ok all of you trucker men.....what do I need to do and not do to get this guy to "be my guy"????

Thanks in advance for the support and advice/suggestions!!!!

Drive safely!!!!!

Comments for I like this trucker guy, he seems to like me too, how do I get him to date me?

Average Rating

Click here to add your own comments

Jul 27, 2012
Rating

Not if it can be proven...
by: Anonymous

It's not slander if it's all TRUE and can be PROVEN. Do you remember when the actor Carrol O'Connor (played Archie Bunker) was sued for slander by the drug dealer who was supplying his son Hugh with drugs? (Hugh died of an overdose) The case was thrown out of court because it was proven that the dealer was everything O'Connor said he was. Look it up.

Jul 27, 2012
Rating

SLANDER
by: Anonymous

...and libel also come to mind.

Jul 08, 2012
Rating

His name isn't Rich, is it?
by: Anonymous

This sounds a lot like my ex-boyfriend, Rich. He is on the trucking singles websites. He also uses another name (keeps his profile hidden from searches because I found it and confronted him about it) who knows how many other names he goes by and how many trucker singles sites he is on.

He started out the relationship acting very sweet and affectionate--quite charming, in fact. Wanted me to move from PA to Spokane, WA. Luckily I found out over the course of about a year that he lies and is keeping many women on the side.

He began getting emotionally abusive by constantly putting me down with subtle, thinly disguised insults and I finally got fed up and ended the relationship.

Btw, we knew each other as kids in school and "met" again on FB, that's how we got together. Anyway, if it's not Rich, be on the alert for him in your search for online love. He's bad news.

May 16, 2012
Rating

I'm so glad...
by: Anonymous

I could humor some of you :)
I do appreciate the feedback ...
He is NOT married...if he is married then they live in seperate houses...which is possible actually, but highly unlikely in this case...
I have kids of my own so not exactly looking for anymore...

I've had an overabundance of drama with an x husband and custody in my own life so I can totally sympathize with all of that....

He appears to married to his work (in my opinion)
I'm not sure I've ever run into anyone (other then myself) that is so serious about their job! He loves trucking!!!! Good for him, it helps to like what you do....
The texting on my part has ceased and it will remain ceased...

I completely agree that if he is at all interested in me he will contact me and pursue me (I will not be jumping through hoops on my end)....
I think his job is also his "escape" from life in general (in my opinion anyway)

Everyone handles life and life stresses in their own way, I think HIS way is drowning himself in his job, can't fault him for that....
I think he possibly didn't have enough time to spend with his past relationships because he is always on the road and the women he has dated ended up going elsewhere for the attention they needed/wanted.....

I know he feels scorned /f'd over and he fears it happening again so he backed off from me more out of caution for himself then anything...

Hey guys.....just for the record here, I am not your typical overbearing, interrogating, co dependent (assuming you all know what that word means), emotional chic that needs a man by my side in order to function in every day life....
I've been single for about 4 years now (by choice)...i'm very accustomed to being alone and doing my own thing....that is an awful lot of what attracts me to this man! He is always on
the go!

That's what I need/want with a guy...I have very little time on my own life (work, kids, and I go to school full time

May 16, 2012
Rating

Choosing Mr. Right
by: Hervy

Maria, you seem like a pretty nice young lady. Unfortunately, that makes you vulnerable.

I am a nice guy, so I know how this goes. The advice that you have already been given seems about right to me.

The problem that people like you (and I) have is we tend to believe people's word to easily and overlook their actions partially because we think people wouldn't play games or be deceitful in order to take advantage.

Surprise, yes the will. Both men and women do it.

YOu need first to look at the big picture as if you were a person looking at another man and woman going through what you are going through right now.

Take you and him out of the picture.

Now looking at what is going on, what would you tell the woman?

Not only should you be alarmed about how you are being handled, consider this.

Why in the world would you want to get seriously involved with someone that you already know has drama going on. That is more than likely not going to stop.

What happens if you have kids, start a family, he gets a little older and decides he wants a real relationship with his other kids. How does all of this play out.

Just how childish is the mother. If one or both weren't childish (immature) or very unbecoming to companionship, there wouldn't be drama.

So just how happy would you be facing your future dealing with the new reality of ongoing drama with the father of your kids.

Not looking at all of these things are how women end up dealing with a clown and then becoming depressed, abused, abandoned, poor and miserable.
So just think about it hard before deciding if you really want to CONVINCE someone to date you.

You might want a guy who is into you as much as you are interested in him. You will get treated better.

Check out is video i made because of the number of women I saw in your position right now.

Plus if you back off completely and if he wants you, he will pursue you and deal on your terms.

May 15, 2012
Rating

LOL
by: Anonymous

LMFAO!!!

May 15, 2012
Rating

he's probably married
by: Anonymous

he's not all that into you, sounds like your just a pit stop for sex

May 15, 2012
Rating

For Real?
by: Anonymous

How can I put this nicely....? He's just not in to you. Look for someone who wants a long term relationship. You are crazy if you think this is the real thing.... move on.

Click here to add your own comments

Join in and write your own page! It's easy to do. How? Simply click here to return to Ask a Professional Truck Driver..