Horrible

by Anne
(New jersey)

I wouldn't have married him if I knew it was going to be this hard. I want to leave, I am too young to suffer like this.

I suggested a few changes for him so that he can help me with our infant daughter and I can work to help him with the bills. It's like truck driving is addictive to them. He has been doing it for 13 years but he has nothing to show for it.

He suffers on the road week in week out but I don't see the benefits. I suggested he should work part time so that we can go back to school together. He doesn't want. He thinks I am undermining his career choice. I am done. I can't do this. I want a better life form my daughter.

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Jul 28, 2013
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Hi NEW
by: Anonymous

I'm a truck drivin reject I have a house the size of a football field I may have to drive to havasu for bid tending job call me

Jul 28, 2013
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Hi NEW
by: Anonymous

I'm a truck drivin reject I have a house the size of a football field I may have to drive to havasu for bid tending job call me

Jul 28, 2013
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Sweet melissa NEW
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Hi Melissa call me

Jul 28, 2013
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Sweet melissa NEW
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Hi Melissa call me

Jul 22, 2013
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More than meets the eyes NEW
by: Melisa

i would have to agree with I AM SORRY. there has to be more to the story. My fiance just got his cdl, and first driving job, and he makes more than enough to cover what we want and need. Maybe we just got lucky, but we also make all our decisions together and share everything.

Jul 19, 2013
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by: Anonymous

On this site I hear a lot about truckers not having anything to show for their hard work, this does not make sense to me...I am not trying to boast here so do not get me wrong....

I know a lot of truckers who make good money...own their homes, take vacations and all the toys to go along with it....yes they may get addicted to the job but it is because they make good money....

I have a feeling the people who post here about not having anything to show for it, has a lot more to their story than is mentioned...

I will give you a clue...those who are working as truck drivers and make little money are those who may be less educated in this area and are accepting what is paid to them....that is no ones fault but their own..if they choose to get screwed than their is nothing you can do about that..

There are other reasons truckers will claim they make little money to their mates and thats because they dont want their mates to know how much they really make...reasons for that, well usually it is a female on the side, drug addiction, gambling, hookers, strip bars and quite possibly kids from other women, family on the side, and child support is being paid out of his pocket that you do not know about.

Another reason a trucker may not seem like he has nothing to show for all his hard work is that he has bad time management skills, and screws up his loads, and that is money out of pocket....could be he is lazy, and get books screwed up, gets caught and the fine is huge for that...could be he gets a lot of tickets, and needs money for attorney and paying the fine off....could be he parks in illegal spots and get tickets which has to come out of his pocket...could be he is in trouble with the law one way or the other and is paying the fines etc....could be he has a screwed up tax preparer who does not gets credit for all the tax right offs that he is allowed...95% percent of what a trucker does out on the road is tax deductable and 80% of that is written off.

You will find this in truckers who are irresponsible and refuse to do anything about it and honey in your case I have a distinct feeling he is not listening to anything you have to say it is because he has no interest in what you got to say...

Get a clue and rise above this... after 13 years if he doesnt have a clue by now he never will... so now that you have a clue, and if I were you, I would split the scene and concentate on that baby so it does not have to suffer with a husband like that...if the child monitors your behavior it will model your beahvior once he/she grows up....is this what you want????

God Bless and good luck...

Jul 19, 2013
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Horrible it is NEW
by: Anonymous

I hear you & understand fully. Yes they do get addictive to their job & you are right they have nothing to show for it & don't forget the only time they get a free shower is when they fill up the truck & they get by with using baby wipes. Can you imagine going without your daily shower! Since just about everything gets transported by truck, they should get free showers. They have to pay $13.00 to get a shower. But you are right, he should help you with the baby. Good luck because you are going to need it!

Jul 19, 2013
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by: Anonymous

I hear you & understand fully. Yes they do get addictive to their job & you are right they have nothing to show for it & don't forget the only time they get a free shower is when they fill up the truck & they get by with using baby wipes. Can you imagine going without your daily shower! Since just about everything gets transported by truck, they should get free showers. They have to pay $13.00 to get a shower. But you are right, he should help you with the baby. Good luck because you are going to need it!

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