Does the time apart ever get any easier

by Nataki
(North Little Rock, Arkansas)

My husband recently started driving, he was gone eight weeks for training. Our only communication was phone.

We have three children ages 8, 7,2 so my work is very demanding. He came home for two days now he is back at work. I am finding it hard to adjust being the only parent. We have never been separated in our twelve years of marriage.

He chose this as a career because of the income and benefits, now I finding myself questioning whether we made the right decision. It took a lot of time and effort to even make it to this point. I am wondering do this trucker wife position become easier because our only time together is on weekends?

Signing Lonely Trucker Wife

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Jul 11, 2013
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Depends NEW
by: Anonymous

on your frame of mine.....on how much more he will make after so many years.......mine is at 60,000.00 take home monthly however, that is long haul and the economy is at its worse right now.... contrary to what everyone is saying...it is bad!!!

Fed Ex doesn't require a CDL as long as he has a clean record..... my daughter use to make 16.48 an hour and all local and that was pay before Katrina hit...it is probably more now.....

My hubby was making 155,000.00 a year 8 years ago local at shipyards owner operator....however he has more than 25 years of exp.

its up to you what you and he wants to do no one here can predict if you or him can do this???

do some soul searching and you will come up with the answer....

Jul 11, 2013
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hang in there trucker wife NEW
by: Rom

No it doesn't get easier with him being a over the road driver but if your husband keeps his driving record clean for the next 2 to 3 years then he will have no problem applying for a better job that will have him home every day. The key is getting the experience and keeping him driving record clear of any moving violations or accidents. You will have to sacrifice a few years but will be worth it.there are plenty of local and regional jobs that pay better with better benefits.i would recommended applying for UPS as soon as he has some experience also get as many endorsements on his CDL as possible. So hang in there trucker wife your husband has chosen a good stable career and he can do well at it.take care I am a long time trucker who put in 23 years over the road just passing to you what i have learned.

Jul 11, 2013
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So sorry NEW
by: Anonymous

I hate to tell you this but unless he is home approx. every 2 weeks and is making a LOT of money it is not worth it.
I've only been the "wife" for 6 months and I have to say it really sucks! After training he made almost nothing and seems he is still struggling to make decent money.
If you ask me I think the sacrafice far outweighs the positive.
You have small children so I cannot even imagine how much harder that must be on the entire family including your husband.
I know it is very difficult for them to be away so I'll tell you if he is not making hand over fist he might as well find something where he can be home every night.
IN the past 6+ months we have spent over $11,000 to put him through school, expenses on the road until he got to come home and then you have all the toll roads, alarm clocks, cb radio, cooler/refrigerator etc.
It's tough but if he seems happy all you can do is stand by him.

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