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Being married to a trucker

by Nikki White
(Atlanta, Georgia)

People don't have a clue about being a wife of a trucker. They look at you like you got it made. "As if!" Being a trucker's wife is a hard job. Being a trucker's wife and a mother on top of that is even harder.

Not only do the wife have to multi-task, housework, laundry, run errands, pay the bills, when and if she receives a check from her husband. But, she also has the task of caring for the needs of their children school work, cooking, after school activities. In if she has an outside job Lord help her.

A trucker wife has to manage and balance the income while her husband is away. She has to do the oil changes on the cars, any repairs that need to be meet, and let's not forget about that forest that grows in the front yard yes, "mow the lawn."

She has to be a mom and dad to the children, along with running her husband errands. A trucker wife has to make sure things run as smooth as possible while her better half is on the road.

A trucker's wife dream of a fairy tale marriage was buried when that eighteen wheel giant pulled up to her front doorstep. Now she has to deal with the love of her life being gone 75% of the time, while she's home alone taking care of the fort.

She has to deal with the public in their opinion that do not have a clue, nor understand what our way of life is all about. She constantly has to defend her husbands profession and the choices that they both make for their family, each and everyday of her life.

She has to deal with being alone and having to protect her family and keep everything secure so her self and her kids will not be harmed if anyone tries to intrude into their space.

A trucker's wife has to deal with her parents and In-laws with their comments and opinions. She has to sit back in smile at the family gatherings and on the holidays when her husband is unable to be home enjoying a nice birthday or Thanksgiving holiday. She has to hold her head high and sacrifice celebrating her wedding anniversary and other special occasions on another day of the year.

When her husband comes home she has to put her life on hold so she can enjoy and relax for the 1-2 days her husband is home. Along with satisfying his needs, washing extra loads of clothes and bedding and put up with his some time grouchiness from being tired and not wanting to go out or visit family or events with her. She has to listen to him bitch about the conditions out there on the road and with the shippers, brokers, and customers. She has to be the support system he needs to release his frustration and pain when the time calls for it. She has to listen to him grip about money, how expensive things are on the road, asking can she cut back on something to make it better for this or that reasons. Like her budget isn't already tight enough.

She has to have trust and faith in her mate, not to accuse him of cheating. A trucker's wife life isn't an easy one. It's a demanding one who has to be independent, strong willed, patient, very tolerant, and understanding. If you really care for your husband you will have no problem with the sacrifices and changes you will have to deal with in the trucking industry.

With trust and communication you will be able to deal with the daily trails and tribulations of the trucking industry. Your marriage will make it!

To learn more about me and my life as a Trucker's Wife visit http://www.lonerwife.blogspot.com/

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Jul 21, 2020
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I didn't ask for this...
by: Anonymous

I have been married for 20 yrs. I have two daughters with my husband and I love them very much. Five years ago, my husband decided to become a truck driver. He told me that he was going to do it and I had no choice in the matter.

I feel that I have been kicked to the curb. I am 54 years old and feel like my life is slowly passing me by, being home alone all of the time other than working and taking care of my daughters.

At first, I tried, but after a period of time, I felt like I didn't know him anymore and when he came home, I felt like I had to turn on a light switch to somehow feel close to him. Then when he left, turn the light switch back off again.

Even my daughters feel that they have been mistreated. They have taken my side (I have told them not to) because they see how lonely I am. I have been told that I am an attractive woman, but I am extremely sad because I feel trapped. I believe in God and do not believe in cheating, but I am so lonely and can't believe my life has ended up like this.

I have told him many times how I feel, but all he says is, "Sorry, but it has to be this way." When it all began, he said five years but now he says three more years.

I don't know what to do. I feel weak and needy and these days. He doesn't even seem to notice me when he comes home. I don't believe in adultery and believe hell is waiting for all adulterers, but the way I feel these days, that may be where I end up.

Jan 31, 2020
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Lonely
by: Dee

It is really hard being married to a trucker. I always say its like being single and shacking up on week end. If they are home, then. You get lonely and when they come home they are bushed and want to sleep and relax, which is understandable, but she is ready to go out away from home a little bit because she has been stuck in the house all week with kids, bills, problems and everything else that pops up.

House hold problems are always there to be solved and figure out a way to work it in to the budget. Yes, being a truckers wife is really hard!

May 12, 2019
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Understand
by: Renee

I have a problem with my husband being on the road. I raised the kids took care of the house and now it's me. He still rather be on the road. Im tired being alone, pretty days are the worst. I get angry upset and my trust has completely went out the door.

I have asked him several times to get a job locally. But it always about money...when you die you can't take it with you and your family will only have memories of you not being there. I don't understand anymore. I don't get the reason any more. Time is not forever so why not be with the one you want to be with...cause most days I just don't think it's me.

Jul 24, 2018
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Jesus christ 90% of the comments here from women sound like real bitches
by: Anonymous

Seriously? Your man is out busting his ass on the road so you can sit at home and trash talk him? Some of you are proud of cheating on them? Wtf is wrong with you people?

May 09, 2018
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Avoid this career is you have a family or married
by: Anonymous

My husband decided on this career after we were already married. Newly married. I was given no input. We have 3 children. 2 are under 7. I would not recommend this career for ANY and I repeat ANY person with children or desiring a dad for their kids.

My husband is never home and when he is the 1-2 days is actually maybe 10 hours of usable time in which he is tired. The strain of everything falling on me has taken a toll and I can honestly say that I have become irritable and nasty and sarcastic to my spouse. This is not the family I wanted and it was forced on me. I am butter and unless a change made extremely quickly and I am not talking about a route job that is 14-16 hour days but a real 9-5 job ( you get my point) this family will not be here when he decides to finally take a real interest in it.

I am bored, lonely, and turned off by this job. This does not even include the horrific habits he has developed. The nails as I read too from someone else. The lack of brushing his teeth. Gross and I’m finding myself less and less attracted to him in general.

This is a combination of priorities not being in sync, bad ha it’s, and lack of a real relationship. My kids honestly would be better off having another man raise them who could actually be physically present and that isn’t something I take lightly or joke about as my kids now have barely any relationship with their dad. Heck I barely do.

Apr 25, 2018
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Not for me
by: Newlywed

My husband and I have been married for 7 months. I currently stay at home but that will soon change once I open my own business in a couple weeks. My husband got fired from his job, which led him to start trucking otr. He had a CDL which he never used until now.

It's been a month so far and already I know this life is not for me. He has a team driver whom is a single man. If he continues trucking, we won't be married long. I'll get all of my financial affairs in order and leave. We are newlyweds building a foundation and growing as 1. But we can't grow if I only see him every other weekend.

Apr 13, 2018
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Frustrated Trucker''s Wife
by: Anonymous

I have been married to a truck driver for ten years. I have been understanding and loving to my husband.

It is starting to take a toll on me lately. I work full time and have a teenage son. My husband changed companies last September and has health Insurance, 2019 truck with tv.

At home we have no TV because direct TV costs too much. I have no health insurance. My son is on Medicaid. He is gone longer and longer saying it is going to help us out with bills. There is never any extra money when he comes in. Only enough to pay rent, phone, electricity. We are on the verge of bankruptcy. It is like he escapes to his truck. He hardly calls. I am at the verge of giving this marriage up!

Our credit is so bad we will never own our own home, there is barely enough money and I usually am forced to take our money that we don't have and pay for a bounced check so my son and I have food. If my husband would just tell me he understands it would be better.

He just escapes to that damn truck and comes home every 3 weeks telling me he is tired. He rests up and is gone for 3 more weeks!

My life really ducks right now. I am trying to hold on but I can not stand the loneliness anymore. I work, stay at home because I am so Fricken p oor I can not do anything. This is no life.

I have men interested in me all the time and my own husband doesn't seem interested in me. Get tired of working so hard, being neglected a's a woman.

Apr 04, 2018
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Dennis
by: Anonymous

Nice post. Holding it down for your old man when he comes off the road is something not in fashion among many wives today, which is why their marriages hit the rocks. So we truckers salute you.

Nov 22, 2017
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WAKE UP AND SMELL THE COFFEE!
by: Anonymous

Ladies I am a female truck driver and if you think for one minute that your husbands out there on the road is not sleeping with those prostitutes that come knocking, you are sadly mistaken. I read that most of you have children and that is the advantage they have on you.

I will say this, just mention to him that you want to learn to drive the truck so you could be out there with him and listen closely for his response. You need to protect yourselves when he comes home. If he did not wear a condom before becoming a truck driver but he is now, he obviously picked up something he does not want to give to you.

There are husbands and wives, boyfriends and girlfriends who both can drive and they are making lots of money being team. I will pray for you but I would never be in those situations.

Your situations are very unsafe. GOD bless all of you.

Nov 20, 2017
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End badly
by: Anonymous

"Girl, it was all good in the beginning — back in 2010 on the East Coast.

He just couldn’t seem happy being a company driver. Eventually, he got his own truck under someone else’s authority, but even then, something always seemed off. There was always some issue with work.

Still, I was holding it down — raising my son and our new baby in 2011, all while moving cross-country to the West Coast. But the pattern never changed. He kept switching companies, moving us from place to place. We never stayed anywhere longer than a year.

He was always too tired to do anything with us. He’d talk to us like we were nothing. Didn’t want anyone around. Got angry if we went anywhere or spent any money. Everything seemed to set him off.

By 2013, things had gotten worse. Another new baby. Another new place. Another job. He started disappearing for days at a time. When he did come home, it was nothing but arguments. I tried to talk to him, but he’d blame everything on me and the kids — said we wanted too much or didn’t do enough.

Fast forward to 2015 — another house, more job changes. Now, we were walking on eggshells around him. He didn’t want to leave the house unless it was to chase high-paying loads. He made big purchases without discussing anything — boats, gear, whatever — but if the kids and I needed something, it was always "no money."

He was gone for almost 6 months. We moved from the central U.S. to the West Coast in January 2016. He came and got us in March, then went back to Wisconsin in June to get our stuff. Somehow, he got a bigger storage unit, started another job, and transferred his mail to friends’ houses — without telling me anything.

He claimed he was just working the five states around Wisconsin because the truck wasn’t in shape for long hauls. But we barely saw him until Christmas. When he did call, it was just to yell. When he came back, it was only to find something to argue about — even went toe-to-toe with my son.

He wouldn’t take calls around us, said the kids were too loud. Kept his phone hidden or on him all the time. His behavior became more controlling and emotionally abusive. By Spring 2017, he bought two campers and land — without talking to me. When I questioned it, he said, "It’s mine. It’s not your concern. I work for it, you don’t."

I had to ask for everything — even bill money. He wouldn’t fix the car, so I had to call my mom for help and then figure out how to pay her back. He started slowly moving things out.

By summer 2017, I told him I knew something was going on. He still wouldn’t admit anything. But he always threw it in my face: "Try to leave — it’s death do us part." He even said that in front of the kids.

By fall, he had a new girlfriend. He wasn’t paying much for the kids anymore but was still taking 80% of the truck income before taxes. He owned the truck and trailer and was now buying a place with her. Ironically, she was the same woman receiving his mail. She left her husband for him — and she knew how he treated us.

Even the kids had had enough. They told him they didn’t like how he yelled, used bad words, or made mommy cry. They didn’t understand why there was no money to do anything and why it wasn’t mommy’s fault.

He couldn’t handle being told he was wrong — especially not by his own children. He got mad that I put the kids in counseling. Got mad that I took his pictures down and moved them to the kids’ rooms. I boxed up his things and sent him what I could. The rest is in the garage.

He doesn’t help much — just some rent, utilities, the car note, and insurance. I don’t work. I have a service dog who’s going blind and probably doesn’t have much time left. He’s even mean to the dog — yelling and hitting him.

I filed for SSA in 2008 and have been fighting for it since. And after our first daughter, he said he didn’t want me working until she was in school full-time. Now he’s changed his tune: "Get a job, or we’ll do without."

He won’t even help with extras — school supplies, gas, basic necessities like soap. Says if I take him to court, he’ll hide everything, change jobs, or work under the table. Threatens me if I even think about custody.

All this time, he’s been doing whatever he wants. Now his older kids only want money from him. Even his birth daughter. The two adopted boys too. I’m out of the picture now, and maybe that’ll make things easier — but I doubt it.

I stood up to him a lot, before and after I realized what was going on.

I just want to say: Good luck to everyone else. This wasn’t my first time with a truck driver, and maybe it won’t be my last — if I ever try again."

Oct 16, 2017
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Amen Sister
by: Robin Franks

I have been a Truckers wife for almost 18 years, I’m also a mother to 2 sons that drive trucks and I couldn’t have said it any better. It takes a special person to be a Truckers wife.

Oct 09, 2017
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New Truckers wife
by: MsStarlight

Nikki,

You just gave some of the best advice. My husband of
10 years has changed careers from being security guard to getting his CDL. He just started training and is in his second full week.

Right now I feel strong because we have been together for so long, but I am not sure I will feel the same way next year. Your advice put me at ease and I know he is doing it for our family and to bring home better pay.

He does want to do local after he trains, but he knows he needs his 2 years of experience first, so if the other ladies on here chose to hang in there with their trucker husbands for 20-plus years on the road, that gives me some possibilities to stay strong.

I will keep track of your blog. I will be needing the support.!!!!

Sep 23, 2017
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Think
by: Anonymous

I would love to be in your position. Having the best of both worlds. If your not committed to the relationship, be honest. I would love to date an owner operator.

Sep 01, 2017
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I have an option to get out now!
by: Anonymous

I'm dating a driver, I really like him. He's been driving for 17 years I've been a full time teacher for 10- I'm reading all these stories and I'm starting to change my mind about marrying him. I make great money here in Chicago!
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His provisions would merely just be play money. I'm already not liking the 3-4 weeks not seeing him, so naturally I cheat. You only live once! My career is great so I don't care really. I don't care if he cheats, I don't really care if I see him when he gets home either. I think I've lost interest. I may need an intellect moreso that gets highly paid for his mental abilities vs. physically ability to drive a vehicle. Yes that's it, I'm uninterested. Plus he is out of shape, his nails are always filthy, his clothes are always nasty, he isn't well groomed, and ugh nothing about riding in that damn truck with him excites me. It was nice at first, but it's worn off.

I'm so not interested and damn sure not looking to marry a driver- thank you for the post. I had no idea! Hell im going to Paris next year, I have no time for him to say he can't go. f that!

Apr 26, 2017
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Girlfriend of a Truck driver
by: Anonymous

I have been with my boyfriend for 17 years, and all 17 he has been driving. I truly understand what you are dealing with. We have kids from different relationships. They are grown now and I was hoping that he would slow down more now. But nope didn't happen.

I dont mind it sometimes but i just feel that its our time now. Also it ticks me off so much that some of these companies dont have riders policies. I think its really crazy for an O/O who wants to take someone on a trip with them.

They want them to be A1 employees but they dont let them have the freedom to kill the loneliness on long trips. So yes I understand how you as well as other trucker wives/girlfriends feel.

Apr 26, 2017
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Trucker's Wife For More Than 25 Years Now
by: Anonymous

My hubby has been a trucker for more than 25 years now and has logged more than 3 million verifiable miles.

We raised 3 kids that are all grown and gone now after having put them all through college. The trucking life has been good to us with regard to financial success.

Yes Nikki, I understand about holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, etc. In fact we were just talking about that subject recently trying to remember if it was only one or two anniversaries that we had spent together since we married nearly 30 years ago. The life of a trucker and his/her family is not meant for everyone, for sure.

We have gotten so used to it that we now joke about having to get to know each other all over again if he should ever retire and stop driving. Honestly, that thought scares me. I have become so used to taking care of things on my own that when he is ever home for more than a couple days at a time, he gets on my nerves and seems to be in the way...lol.

But he feels the same way...kind of out of place with nothing to do. It seems that even the most important things in life we have had to discuss and take care of over the phone, with texts and with emails. When we refinanced our home a few years ago we had to have a notary meet my hubby at a truck stop to get his signature on the ton of paperwork included with contract.

What a pain. I cannot remember the last time we spent either of our birthdays together and we are both so used to sleeping alone, him in his truck and me here in our bed at home, that we have a hard time sleeping together when he is home.

My friends and family don't understand that when my hubby is due home, the rest of the world and everything in it has to take a back seat to his arrival.

Sometimes we only have a few hours to go over important issues such as getting our taxes signed and done, getting all his laundry washed, dried and put back in his truck, going through all his paperwork he turns into me, restocking his groceries in his truck, having a good home cooked meal hot on the table (even if it is 3a when he pulls up out front), making sure the house is clean, checkbooks are balanced and about a million other things are done prior to him getting here. But that is the life of a trucker's wife.

You either fit into the lifestyle or you let it ruin a good marriage. Its not for everyone, that's for sure. Fortunately we have weathered the years very well as I think he will be in the business till he retires.

(He is an owner/operator but has spent many of his driving years as a company driver too.) And there's damn good money in it if you stick with it.

Apr 20, 2017
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Trucker Life
by: ginny

My name is Ginny and I am going to marry a Trucker, I hope I am doing the right thing. Seems like it a long lonely life.

Dec 14, 2016
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otr
by: monte

it all depends on who he or she drives for. theres a lot of companies out there where you can be home at least 2-3 days a week. Is this his first year? on that first year you have to build up the miles along with the experience and that can be tough.

most companies that offer local, dedicated, regional runs where your home 2-5 days a week require 9 months to a year of driving experience before they will hire you. so all I'm saying is if this is his first year driving be patient]]] time will fly by. our first year was similar to your experience but now going on year 2 I'm home every week and were all happy...

Nov 20, 2016
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Glad to know I'm not alone!
by: Momof3

Wow I'm SO glad I found your article. It's midnight Saturday night and my 3 kids (8, 5, 9 months) are in bed, I'm alone as usual while my husband catches up on sleep with the one night he gets off. We've been together 9 years, I'm 27 he's 34 and owns a large truck company.

He started driving truck 2 years into our relationship and started his own company a year after that. I thought things would slow down considering his business has grown so much, he has great employees and makes great money. The first few years were hard getting the business going I helped him so much, I'm the one that got all the accounts and he did all the driving along with 2 great friends he hired. He doesn't do long distance trips anymore (thank God) but he still works around 90 hours a week, his shifts are 12am-4pm, including Friday and Sunday nights so not only do I sleep alone, housework, cooking, homework, social events I do it all alone with my 3 kids. I keep busy and appreciate the big beautiful home we built, my new SUV and being able to give my kids everything bc we literally built this life for ourselves but at times when the dust settles, I realize how lonely I am. He's a great provider and I'm grateful for the hard worker he is, but when your family is suffering, something is wrong. I've talked to him about it, told him he needs to delegate and there's a reason he has employees, I'm now thinking he's a workaholic bc he doesn't NEED to be working this much, he chooses to. My kids need their dad, I need my husband, I need him emotionally and I could really use help with everything that lands on my shoulders! Sorry for my rant.. I just needed to vent and I found comfort in your words. Thank you

Nov 16, 2016
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Truly amazing woman you are much props and high regard in respect
by: Anonymous

Wow your a amazing woman I must say you do all that shit to keep your marriage in tact.then when your man comes home tell him to shut the fuck up and cater too the queen yea that sounds good actually.

Nov 12, 2016
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Aug 15, 2016
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WIFEVOF TRUCKER W/TODDLERS
by: E.E.H

My husband is also a cross country Truck driver. About 3 years now. Our 3 children are under 5 and he missed the birth of the youngest. When he first started I tild jim he abs had to quit. I was mom, dad, mechanic, doctor etc lol. And it seemed as if everytime he left something drastic woyld happen.I know someobe else out there is goung through the same thing. Im telling u now. GET A HOBBY. Because bitchibg atvthem only stresses them out and its not gonna change. Ive accepted the fact that hubby has to work, and i cant get paid if he doesent get paid. I was depressed the first 6bmonths. After that i got a hobby. Now when he comes home after a couple days Im readyvfor him to go. Because Im so independent and its like living alone with our children so i like to be alone. But it gets better. Only with TIME. Its rough in the beginning. They have a tough job too. And they want to be home just as much as u want them to be.

Now my husband gets awarded at work for best employee and raises and commended for being such a hard worker. Btw we have 3 boys . 1, 2 and 4. Its rough but u have to stay busy.

Now we laugh because a month can go by and it seems like a week or two only. With time it gets better. Just stick by your man or woman.

Aug 12, 2016
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Peace that surpasses all understanding
by: Anonymous

I have been a trucker's wife for 19 years. The industry has taken a total u-turn. Along with dealing with the financial roller coaster, as a wife of a trucker, we must deal with those who think truckers are making enormous incomes. Transportation industries are "lining" their pockets. Restaurants are focused on their pockets, parking is difficult to locate, the food tastes horrible, and showers are expensive.

Some brokers are liars. They cancel loads to get a lower bid from other drivers.
A trucker's wife must trust her husband and vice versa. It is not love to accuse each other of unfaithfulness.

A trucker's wife must be patient, kind, understanding, unselfish, helpful, and more. He does not need to hear that the children are disobedient, deal with it yourselves. He is tired, feeling down trodden, and unappreciated. Lift him up, thabk him for sacrificing himself for the family. He is a truck driver because he wants to provide for you. Wives, show appreciation to him. Stand up for him when others do not understand. By the way, you, he and your children are a family NOT the in-laws. There is no explanation needed to them.
At the end of the day, I love my husband and dealing with the positives and negatives of trucking has made us closer to each other and to our Father in Heaven through Jesus Christ. It is He who gives peace that surpasses all understanding.

Mar 15, 2016
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I'm a newbie
by: Jae

This is my husband 1st year, but he's signed with a company for 2years over the road driving. Yes, it has been a lil hard especially with the children. I'm praying for my mind to remain strong, I must admit some of these stories are crazy scary.

Mar 06, 2016
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TalkCDL The Trucker Show!
by: Anonymous

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Sep 03, 2014
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its a choice
by: Anonymous

It's a choice to be a truckers wife. But from an ATL girl who knows first hand, most are cheating, and half the time have a girl riding with them while the wife is at home saving the day.

Most companies give vacation and time home so I can't see why one wouldn't be home on holidays. I know the roads are rough. I've seen how hard it is out there for truckers. That's why I can't blame them fully for the wrong they do, they get lonely.

But just like being a single mom, truckers wives have to handle a lot. The only difference is trucker wives chose that life. Just like any other career.

Jun 04, 2014
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love it!!!!
by: Anonymous

Amen I agree with everything you
said.

Jun 04, 2014
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love it!!!!
by: Anonymous

Amen I agree with everything you said.

Oct 29, 2013
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YES
by: Jenifer

You nailed it girl! I live in Cartersville, GA and would love to hook up with other truckers wives and maybe we can be each others support and help one another hold the fort down, watch out for one another, keep that grass cut, etc. etc.

Oct 29, 2013
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Mar 01, 2012
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support
by: Anonymous

I want to thank Nikki White for her informative and possitive letter about how to make it as a truckers wife.

Very Nice! Thanks for the support and encouragement. I appreciate it!

Nadynne Suderman

Mar 19, 2010
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Almost complete, a little more to add. Need some more advice...
by: Pregant Trucker's Wife

I could not have worded it better myself. It is re-assuring to read that others feel the exact same and deal with the exact same issues that I am feeling and dealing with my my husband being over the road.

As always, to make it worse. As proud as we are internally about ourselves and our husbands to be able to manage and live with such a hard life decision, the general public seem to all have such a bad view on OTR truckers. They have this stigma against them as if they are all old dirty over weight perverted disgusting men. As WE know, that is not all true!

Along with having to deal with all of the extras you mentioned when he IS home, you did forget one thing. Not that it is hard enough to only have him home a couple days here and there but you also have to put your selfishness aside and share him with family and friends.

My husband and I dated for over 8 years before we married. He was not a truck driver then, but had his own tile and floor covering business. As the economy diminished, so did the construction and there fore so did the business. My husband took my father and cousins advice (as they are truck drivers too) and began his life on the road. At this point, we had only been married for a little less than 4 months. About a month after our 1 year anniversary we got great news, we found out we were expecting our first child! As great as this gift is, it did bring on a whole new spectrum of complications. Family is VERY important to us. This really hurts him to know he will most likely miss most of the milestones in my pregnancy and in out child's life. I am not 4 months pregnant, and I scheduled my ultrasound 6 1/2 weeks ahead of time and on a Monday knowing he is usually home on Mondays to insure he would be present. A couple hours ago we just found out he has to take an extra run and there is a 50/50 chance he will make it. The appointment is now only about a week away. If he is able to make it he will have been up all night driving before the appointment. This news was devastating to us both and I need to know how to deal.... It also brought on more things that I had not though of before like...what are the chances of him actually be able to be home to be with me as we welcome our little one into the world!? Please help as I am at a lost on how to deal with this...

Jan 29, 2010
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Truckers wife chat
by: Anonymous

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