Understand that having an anti social behavior is not the same as having the condition anti-social behavior disorder.
Some truckers may find themselves becoming a bit anti social if they start driving over the road, especially as a single person due to isolation and lack of interaction with others.
Some drivers occupy all of their free time doing something that doesn't require dealing with others. TV in the bunk, preparing food in the bunk, read in the bunk, etc.
For instance, sometimes I sat at the computer for hours working on this website. I am also writing for several book. I am recording audio, video and sometimes editing both. I am never finished!
Well that takes away from being social with others in traditional ways. Often I cut the ringer on the phone off.
So after days of this, I have to make myself put it up and just spend time in the truckstop interacting with other drivers and call friends and family.
I have also found myself doing what I am sure other drivers do....
With NPR or some other program on about something interesting, I will put off calling people back or going in the truck stop until that is over, then another good one will come on, and the cycle continues until it's tool late to bother folk or I'm too tired.
Looking back I can actually tell that I lost skills interacting with others for a while. Even my speaking skills were hampered by not speaking much during the time that I had the most projects going at once, cause the only thing I did was focused on projects. I only talked when I needed to talk to deliver or dispatch. When I talked to someone I am pretty sure they felt I showed anti social behavior. I used to hold the phone with nothing to say or thinking about writing.
So balance is the name of the game. Don't get so busy doing
other things that you don't communicate with your loved ones. Obviously, if
you are in a relationships, that will demand some of your time and
attention, if you don't provide it, don't expect it to remain healthy.
Wives sometimes talk about how drivers call home less often and remain on the phone for shorter periods of time. The natural assumption is that there is something going on. That could be true, but I believe often it is not true.
I have talked to who say they just don't feel like talking or don't want to hear what will be said when he calls. You will only make things worse by simply not calling. Decide that you will learn what it takes to communicate and get along with your spouse if this is the case. Relationship counseling or coaching might help you and your significant other to communicate better.
See the page on relationships too
Using distance and time to create space between you and your spouse is not helpful is you want to keep or grow the relationship.
If you feel that you have the more serious anti social behavior disorder you need to seek help. Its hard to treat this disorder in an adult so you must commit yourself to change.
If you have the symptoms below most of the time you may have a serious... No no no no no YOU DO HAVE A SERIOUS PROBLEM AND YOU NEED TO GET HELP
If you can identify with at least 3 of the bullets above describing you, consider serious help. You might have anti-social personality
disorder and some other issues too.
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