I met my trucker on a dating website. Actually he found me. Even though this is essentially a long distance relationship, which I've never done before, it's working. Frankly this is the best relationship I've ever been in and for once I actually see a future with him. We've been together for going on six months and he says I've become his everything.
Yes, I hate when he's gone, but I've always considered myself a strong, independent woman so as much as I miss him, it's important for me to be my own person and to not become whiney and clingy and beg him to come home all of the time when that's simply not possible. He was a driver when we started talking to each other so I knew what I was signing up for.
He's been working super hard lately and as independent as I am, I've learned to accept it as working toward our future together, and it's becoming a really nice feeling. The biggest thing I've learned is that it truly does take a strong and emotionally secure woman to be a trucker's girlfriend/wife. It takes someone who doesn't fall apart at the seams every time he has to leave and someone who doesn't need him around all the time just to prove that he genuinely loves you.
I also learned that they need to hear (or read if you text) that you love and support them every single day. They need to know their missed without feeling guilty about doing their job. And they need to know you have a good head on your shoulders and can take care of yourself while they're away.
I'll admit to getting a little impatient when I know he's definitely coming home, but being crazy and freaking out when they don't call when they say they will or don't make it home the exact day they plan doesn't help anything. Once you've established all of that, then it's all pretty much smooth sailing from there.
He's not going to be driving cross country forever so the both of us do see light at the end of the tunnel. But like George Harrison sang, it's going to take time...and patience.
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