Wendy "Zoe" Jones

by Zoe
(Maryland)

Hi folks,

First we have only been married 2 years but been together 10. Thankfully we have no children at home (pls do not take the wrong way) as mine are all grown up.

My husband completed school and is on the road now 4 weeks. I am not crazy about his choice but after being unemployed for 17 months due to the economy something had to give.

He is enjoying this "new" experience but misses home dearly. He stopped by for 10 minutes one day while passing thru and didn't recognize the place even though nothing had changed!

Me, I am disabled by neurological diseases. I get around well and can take care of myself but right now due to a car that is broke down must rely on others for trips to the store. Big frown.

I know this is going to be a long hard ride for me, the wife back home. Also hard for my hubby out on the rode. During the first weeks out on the road we had alot of financial problems and other incidents to deal with but are getting better.

Hubby kept making the mistake of saying to me "There is nothing I can do about it from here"-instead of saying sorry your going thru this alone. I let him have it and hopefully that has stopped! I knew he couldn't do anything about it I just needed some support and someone to listen to me when it got really tough.

For me I have family nearby and my granddaughter is 5 and I see her alot. I try to keep busy by scrapbooking his journey (and mine), painting and with my addiction to hermit crabs! Before I became disabled I was extremenly independent so I will draw on that strength.

My first husband was in the military and then a cop so I am somewhat used to the loneliness. Although that was many years ago.

I honor all of the veteran wives out there who have been down the long road and are surviving. Those of us who are newbies have so much to learn from you.

I look forward to joining the chat.