New to being a truck drivers wife

by missx
(michigan)

I am 26 years old and have 3 children and my husband

is an OTR driver for about 4 months now. I have no idea how to deal with him being gone. I miss him like crazy. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

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Dec 05, 2009
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starstarstarstarstar 		away so long...
by: Lisa Hainline

i feel as if i am a war bride...as if my husband has gone off to war and he's never coming home for good...as if i'm living as a single mom who gets to have an affair once a month. if i was 20, maybe it would be easier, i don't know but life is short and i'm not thinking I want to live like this forever. I'm a newly wed at 51 and i'm struggling.
Dec 02, 2009
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by: Baby Bear

PLEASE TAKE A LOOK AT MY PAGE THERE IS SOME REALLY GOOD INFO ON THERE FROM THE OTHER WOMAN I AM DEALING WITH THE SAME THINGS HERE LET ME TELL YOU ITS SUPER HARD TO DEAL WITH THERE ISNT NOTHING EASY ABOUT IT BUT AS THE OTHER GIRLS SAID IT GET EASY AS THE TIME GOES BUY YOU JUST LEARN TO DO THINGS ON YOUR OWN
Dec 01, 2009
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by: Jimmy

Also remember, he misses you just as much. Jimmy
Dec 01, 2009
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by: Anonymous

Build yourself a support system, develop good healthy relationships, keep involved with activities with your kids, get a hobby, get involved in your local YMCA, see if you qualify for a scholarship, it will be helpful if you cannot afford a membership, lean on your church family, if yo don't have one find one, try several churches till you can say you feel at home and it will foster yours an your children's gifts, and where you feel a connection to God and his people.

This can be a lonely life, yes, the nights are the hardest, sometimes you deal with loneliness and fear, sometimes you watch tv all night, sometimes you don't want to sleep in the bed and you end up with a sore back from sleeping on the couch.



Yes communication is key. Keep him informed about what is going on at home to a point. He cannot handle the home situation and focus on all he needs to, he is handling a lethal weapon driving that rig so his head needs to be on what he is doing.

You are going to have to have a backbone especially when they become teenagers, without dad's presence it will be difficult at best.

There is going to be times where you might tell him about something relating to bills or your kids school functions, don't' get upset if he does not always remember, he has got a lot of stuff in his brain he needs to remember to stay safe and legal on the road.

Many times he will come home extremely tired. If he is "too tired" the first night home don't take it personally, just snuggle up and be thankful he is home, there is always the next day, maybe while the kids are at school or whatever, be creative. There maybe times when you may not get to have mommy daddy time, make the best of things.

Why do I know these things, my husband has been a driver for 22 yrs it has not always been easy, there has been a lot of good, You deal with alot of different situations, the washer breaks down, the brakes go out, you need money for something or another, that is why you need a support group and a helpful family.

You and your husband need to network and find a reliable mechanic you can call on who will work with you if you don't have the money on hand, you need to try to have a savings in case you need to by a new washer or a pair of shoes for the kids.

If it is feasible, do daycare so you have some money coming in to help with those surprise expenses, open a bank acct in your name, save money toward Christmas, don't wait till the last minute, you can have pedicures and manicures and not feel guilty taking money out of the family budget. Oh yes, you should set a budget, watch your spending, set an allowance for the kids if they are old enough to spend money, teach them how to use money wisely.

Maybe try to go out with him if it is allowed so you can see what he has to deal with. You will have a new perspective for what he has to deal with.


Nov 30, 2009
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by: Hervy

Welcome to a new world! LOL

I think the ladies will tell you that being a truckers wife is definitely a new adventure. Not all good not all bad but mostly what you make it..... that is if you have a good man which we all hope and pray you do.

To start you might want to read the info of the advantages and disadvantages of being a trucker. This will give you insight kind of what he will be dealing with as a trucker.

becoming a trucker

Then you will want to get some good advice and ideas from Jennifer right here. Click on the links on the page. Good Stuff.

advice for truckers wives

Then you might want to join the truckers wives support group on Facebook here

lifeasatruckers wife support facebook group


That should get you on a good track Missx.

Wish you the best and remember. Communication is the key. That will be what keeps the connection despite the distance.

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