My Man is Going OTR - Need advice

by Princess Diana
(Richmond, VA )

So, the love of my life is about to begin his CDL training. After approximately 5 weeks he will be signing a contract to go Over the Road for a year with the company that is training him.

I have found this website through a search engine and thought I would make a post. I am looking to connect with other truckers' wives and girlfriends who have experience in the lifestyle.

What types of things do you do to stay busy? What do you do when the doubt creeps into your mind about trusting him? How do you manage the household and the kids while he is away? And most importantly, how do you handle not cuddling up to him in bed every night?

He hasn't left yet but already I'm dreading the thought of him being away. So I'm reaching out and hoping to get some pointers from the pros on how to make this transition go smoothly.

Thanks in advance and God bless!

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Dec 26, 2017
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Don't dwell on it NEW
by: Wendy

My husband has been OTR for almost 15 years. Keep busy - have your own friends and activities. When he is home enjoy the time. Trucking is a hard job but it will provide for your family. Remember - it is more difficult on him than on you. You have the comfort of your own home and bed and get to be with your family. He is on the road - working 14 hour days and then has to shower in strange places and sleep in his truck. My husband has missed most school plays, concerts, ball games, etc. But he cherishes those he is able to attend. It gets easier over time.

I see a lot of posts here with women worrying about their husbands cheating. Either you trust him or you don't - occupation doesn't matter. I am fortunate I guess. I trust mine completely.

Nov 02, 2017
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It'll take time but you'll be ok NEW
by: Anonymous

My fiancé and I have been together 3 years now. He is gone for a month then home a week. In the beginning it was really hard on me. I would cry after he left and I just felt lost without him. As time went on I realized I can't just live waiting for his next hometime; I had to live my own life while he was away. I work part time and I have 2 teenagers so that helps keep me busy. I guess I've just got used to being on my own more and there's a big part of me that actually likes the freedom I have. Then when he comes home it's exciting and we appreciate the time we have more. It will be hard at first but if you talk to him everyday, FaceTime, text.. it helps. Most importantly start doing things you enjoy. Don't allow yourself to sit around sad all the time. An occasional cry is normal but after awhile it does get easier. I also got a puppy. As silly as that may sound she keeps me company and sleeps with me every night. I hope things go well for you guys!

Sep 08, 2017
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otr not good for family life.... NEW
by: Anonymous

Good luck....

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