Just got engaged to a trucker. Now bothered about him being gone for extended periods of time. What do you think?


(Va)

I have been in a relationship with him on and off for 2 years now. Our relationship suddenly went into overdrive and we just recently got engaged.


He was home with me everyday for the past month taking time off now he is back on the road. I'm lost.

It never seemed to bother me before but now that we are getting married it seems harder with him not here. No one seems to understand so I have just been keeping to myself.

What do I do?

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May 04, 2012
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Congratulations NEW
by: faith

i have been married to my trucker for 3 years..i am very happy being his wife but i do miss him very much when hes gone and sometimes he is gone up to a month but sometimes shorter just depends on freight...i have told him that if i had known more before we married i might have said no
but like someone said it takes a certain kind of woman to be married to a trucker...
depending on who he works for you could always go with him some and have time together..
i wish you the best in whatever you decide to do

May 04, 2012
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Now That Is Good Advise! NEW
by: Anonymous

Debbie,

Your kind and honest advice is what "Just Engaged" needs to hear. God Bless your heart for standing by your husband and being one of those special ladies I wrote about in my post. I love feeling like I am on a mini honeymoon every time my husband is home too! :)

May 04, 2012
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TRUST IN GOD NEW
by: DEBBIE

I can tell you the only thing that has helped me with the time alone is a strong relationship with Jesus Christ. I find great comfort in reading the Bible and going to church. I am 1200 miles away from all of my family and friends. My husband and I have been married 5 years and the first 4 we owned our own business and were together all of the time. We had to let the business go due to the economy and moved away to be closer to his family and a better economy. We have been apart for a month now and I don't think it has gotten easier but I am more comfortable with it now. I think it might make it harder on you as you are now engaged because of the commitment you are making to him. I trust my husband 100% but it is still difficult when he is gone. I think you might want to think about what it is that is bothering you. I am not worried about my husband cheating on me, but I miss him horribly. I know that we discussed this before he got this job and I knew what it was going to be like and still agreed to it.
In a way it has made it more like a honey moon when we see each other. I think we appreciate each other and our time together more now.
Do some soul searhing and be honest about your feelings before he leaves. If you have a church or a pastor that you can talk to, take advantage of it. It is the only thing that gets me through sometimes.
Good Luck and God Bless You.

May 03, 2012
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Dear Dont Do It NEW
by: Anonymous

I am so sorry you have had such a bad life with your husband being on the road and cheating on you. Maybe some sound advice would be for you to divorce him and move on. You clearly sound as though you hate your life? Why would you want to be miserable for the rest of your life?

In turn just as men truckers cheat on their wives the wives of truckers cheat on them too.

Just to clear the record not all trucker marriages are the "Marriages from Hell" as yours is.

Give the girl some sound advice vs. venting how miserable you are.

Relax.

May 03, 2012
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don't do it NEW
by: Anonymous

Maybe I can help you. Figure out how many days a month you will be spending with this man, then add the days up over a period of a years time. Can you honestly say that you could be happy spending most of your life walking through it alone, because your relationship will exist primarily over the cell phone. I don't know how old you are, but truth is, no one likes to be alone, that's why people marry, for intimacy and companionship. It bugs me when I hear people say it takes a special person to be married to a truck driver, because there's nothing special about walking through most of your life alone. Were created for companionship. Guys are visual too, and they're sexual creatures, and most of us trucker wives have had to deal with infidility, because a lot of the men cheat with women out on the road because they're lonely and horney. It's the truth. I'm giving you a clear picture of what you have to look forward to, so if you marry this man, you have no right to complain, because you've been warned.

May 03, 2012
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Dear Newly Engaged NEW
by: Anonymous

Dear Newly engaged,

Living in a truckers world is hard. It takes a very special lady do endure this lifestyle. It is always hard when a loved one is away from home and there will be countless nights sleeping alone too. What I think is that your feelings are valid and maybe you can make a good decision if you gather enough good advise on how to handle your situation.

I live the trucker lifestyle and sure I miss him when he's away, but when it's time for him to be home I drop everything I am doing and just have lots of fun when he is here. It is almost like being young again each week and that outweighs the sad days!!

If you believe you are that special lady make him believe it too. Everything will fall into place after that.

Have a nice day! :)

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