How many times should I see him?

by Jese
(Austin tx )

Hi ladies I hope you don’t mind me coming to this chat I’m not married to him but we have been dating for 6 months.

I was wondering If I could get your wisdom. I only see him once or twice a week during the weekends we live about 30 mins away from each other but during the week he just complains he’s too tired or has to go to bed early which I understand with the job he has, but I feel like one time a week isn’t enough.

Is it valid that I want to see him more or should I be more understanding due to how tiring trucking can be?

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Mar 15, 2023
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Not a Lady But I Can Give You The Drivers Perspective
by: The Crazy Trucker

First: Yes 1 time a week isn't enough if yall enjoy each others company.

Second: Yes being involved with a trucker will require being understanding. And you seem like the type of loving and self reflecting person to pull it off well.... Kudos for seeking outside opinion to check yourself. I think that alone speaks highly of you!

Just to give you another mans perspective though, it's easy to drive there the 30 mins....

But then we will want to spend time and if he really likes you it's likely he will push it as long as he can.

Then you will drive back home or drive from there...to work i guess.

But that adrenaline and excitement that will keep him woke and energized to see you and stay won't be there during the next day while driving.

During the day, he will tired and drained, likely.

And to have to drive tired like that is dangerous and unpleasant. It's also life shortening!

So I thinks its wonderful that you want to see him more. He probably wants to see you more too.
And it's natural to feel the way you do.

It's likely he's a good man. Just make sure he has a good plan to get out of the truck so this is not an endless cycle.

Talk to him about his vision for yall's relationship. Because if yall are going to be serious you will want to see him more and you don't want to fall head over heels etc not being able to see the man you love more.

The reason i say all of this is because it helps you see where his mind/head is at and help you think about if this is something you want to keep investing time and energy in.

Because after the conversation this should start, yall should be able to get on the same program about what you're doing and why.

If it's just fun and yall are filling each others time up it's one thing.

If yall are building a solid foundation for a long term relationship it's another thing.

What's important is for both of you to have the same idea and thoughts about what type of relationship yall are building.

With that, it's easier for both of you to deal with the current situation and plan for a future situation according to the vision and priorities for the relationship.

This way he doesn't lose a good woman and you don't lose a good man based on dissatisfaction with something that could be temporary.

(meaning his schedule from the current trucking job could be temporary if you both decide that relationship and spending time together is worthy of planning something different for the future.)

There's plenty of trucking companies and other things to do which he could be home more in a years time.

(Keep in mind this is not knowing other details about his life, like financial needs, housing situation, whether he's recovering from investing all him money in the stock market 2022 etc.)

Well these are just some things to consider, ponder and perhaps talk with him about.

Best wishes.

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