How do u handle the lonely nights?

by shawnita
(Imperial, MO)

I have been the wife of a OTR trucker for 2 weeks but hes been trucking OTR for two months I've figured out how to deal with the daytime without him by occupying my time with caring for my 3 month old and training my dog but how do u make it through the long nites without crying urself to sleep?

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Apr 15, 2011
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Remember the happy times
by: Anonymous

I would also sleep with his shirt...and for a while it would still smell like him. I tend to ball up pillows and blankets and curl up with those. Also be careful to not count on talking to him every night before you go to bed as I started that and the one night he couldn't talk to me it was not so good. In a way it made it a lot harder. Like previously said remember all the good things and times you guys have had together and the times you will have in the future.

Mar 15, 2011
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lonely nights
by: Carrie

Crying yourself to sleep only makes the lonely feeling grow stronger. It's OK to feel lonely, but you can't let it consume you. Sometimes I wear one of his shirts to bed, or sleep on his side of the bed. I also take comfort in knowing that the nights are just as lonely for him.
When I'm missing my hubby I redirect my focus. I let go of the lonely feeling and think about all the things he does that make me love him more and more every day. I think about our last talk, or what we did when he was home. Then I fantasize, and plan. I think of different things we can do together when he comes home, and I like to act out those ideas in my head. I pretend he's there.
For me, thinking about why I love him, and things we can do to make the most of the face to face time we get, helps to keep the loneliness at bay.
Sometimes the loneliness can be hard to bear. You are new to all of this, which is good. It's so much easier to re-train your brain and thought processes early on, than after many years of feeling miserable. My suggestion is to keep redirecting your focus from your loneliness, to why you're glad he's your man. Keep at it during this early time, it makes it easier to deal with as the months go by. Good Luck!!!!

Mar 13, 2011
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Strength and Faith
by: Lisa D.

YOu find comfort knowing that he is using his skills to provide for his family. You pray for his safety. You keep faith in knowing that though you are not together, you are a team! You keep lines of communication open and share the little special things with him at night before one of you goes to sleep. Be proud of who he is and the nights will get easier!

Mar 12, 2011
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lonely
by: Anonymous

well i drove a truck for fifteen years gone all week. And i have a devoted of 29 years. Who loves me you have to realize the bills have to be paid. And trucking is a good living suck it up and be a strong wife.

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