Don't know what to do. Any relationship advice?

My boyfriend started shortly into our relationship to go from m-f local driver to
A long distance driver ment to be home weekends. Lol yeah right.

In june I had major surgery. .....I went through it all alone... family dealing with
My sister having complicated birth of second child.

They flocked to her with my blessing. ... new she was the favorite and didn't care. If my boyfriend and friends couldn't go why care..... wrong....

I had a hysterectomy and opperectomy. A lot of healing and scarey stuff.
I made it on my own for weeks even with dogs. Having epilepsy and not be able to drive.

He doesn't understand with our age difference how down and menopausale I am

Ever since June he wont hug me forget kisses and dr released me for sex....
Forget that...argh


Help. Loosing effort to be with the man I love.

Advice?