Advice needed about being a trucker's wife

Hi Ladies,

I am a new truckers wife as of two months ago. My husband went through driver solutions and is now working for PAM transport.

He is currently teaming with someone. He use to be a manger for about 25 years and he became tired of taking all the blame for slack employees.

He also had heard that truckers make real good money. He went from bringing home $1300.00 bi-weekly to anywhere from $49-$320 weekly. We are both about stressed out! We are getting behind on the bills and with Christmas coming it is causing problems in our marriage.

We have been together since we were 14 and have been married for 26 years. This has been the worst thing we have ever went through emotionally and financially in all those years.

I need some advice or words of encouragement before I lose my mind, my house and my marriage.

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Oct 02, 2016
Same situation! NEW
by: Candice

I understand how you're feeling. My husband is still in school with Driver's Solutions and while I know that this is one of the best decisions that he ever could have made for us, I'm finding the idea of being without him hard to deal with. I am so very proud of him and what he's achieving, but we've not been apart more than a few days in the past 12 years. This has been one of the hardest stretches of time I've dealt with and I'm just hoping that having forums like this with other trucker wives will make things look a little less dreary.

Nov 27, 2012
Trust in God NEW
by: Malia

Yes i do trust in God. Otherwise, i don't know how i would keep my sanity. thanks for your 'encouragement'.

Nov 27, 2012
God has his reasons NEW
by: Anonymous

Ever think that there is a message in it all?

I hear you say that you never wanted to be so dependent on anyone else?

Maybe now's a time to look into this message?

Maybe God wants you to stop being so dependent on someone else, and become dependent on him?

Or maybe he wants you to be more reliant on self?

There are things you can do to help yourself....
Like reading self help books?

There are many people in need of a warm smile, and a hot plate of food.....

Maybe you can help them at a shelter....because sometimes helping others out, helps us out.

Good Luck and weigh your options, believe in God and he will do the rest!! :)

Nov 26, 2012
Wow same situation NEW
by: Malia

My husband of 11 years, was a manager and hated taking the slack for slackers. Went into trucking because of the pay and has always been something that peeked his interest.

So hubby is about to join SWIFT. Today is day 2 that he has been away from home and i can honestly say that i HATE it!

I try to stay upbeat with him, but i can't stand to hear his voice on the phone and not cry. I feel like a such a sucker. Especially because i have never wanted to be sooo dependent on anyone else. Now I find myself crying at the simplest things - someone else asking about my husband, a christmas song on the radio (ps.i LOVE christmas), coming home to an empty and dark house ... ick.

Definitely need to find others who understand. My friends/family are all busy with their lives and don't understand, all i keep hearing is "take advantage of time for yourself."

Nov 26, 2012
Oh my... NEW
by: Sue

I agree with anonymous that something is seriously wrong here. Has he asked for an explanation from the company? If not, that's the first thing I would do.

Please don't let your husband continue to work so hard and not be paid what he deserves. His time away from his family is worth so much more than that. There are plenty of good companies out there willing to pay their drivers well(especially team drivers).

Wishing you the best of luck and hoping this gets straightened out soon!


Nov 25, 2012
Truckers do make good money NEW
by: Anonymous

This is a word of encouragement and not to be taken as a put down. The company your husband is working for is a rip off. I have never heard of any trucker making such low pay?? He needs to re-think about being a trucker if this is all he thinks he deserves.

I am sorry that this is taking place in your life, but be strong and go on the hunt for a better trucking firm for him... if he does not want to change something is wrong with that picture.

This is not to brag but to let you know what a normal truck driver who works for a company makes in wages. 54,000 - 90,000 a year. Long Haul...

Texas is having an oil boom right now in Midland and truck drivers are making money....with that said....get to looking for a new job...good luck and prayers always work too! :)

Nov 25, 2012
Strong marriage NEW
by: Sari

You evidently have a strong lasting marriage .
Finances were the main issue in my husbands
Desiton to go into truck I can relate
I think the first fue months are difficult while he's
In training .Im still trying to adjust to his coming
Home and leaveing again. However my husband
Happier he's doing something he enjoys .Rather
Than the eight to five job he was misserable .He
appreciates his family a lot more now ,it shows.
With his dedicated route we'll be seing at least
Once a week.we talk and text every day and
Make the most of his return .
God bless you!

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