The impact of trucking on the family can be devastating. I have talked to many truckers about their problems at home. I have heard many arguments on the phones at the truck stops.
Sometimes these problems are about the kids, sometimes about the wives, and sometimes, its about both!
Many home horror stories may not be because the a spouse is a truck driver.
If there is any type of problem already present in the marriage or relationship with children before trucking then you probably shouldn't become a truck driver.
Life as a trucker has little room for troubled relationships.
Just as it takes a special type of person to drive a big truck, it takes a special kind of family at home. If you weren't selective when you chose your mate then you probably can expect to encounter many stressful and uncomfortable situations with the family.
(Particularly because of lack of compatibility)
There are so many things at play and against the driver from the start. Think about it. The general public thinks we pretty much have time to entertain women all over the country (thanks to a few bad examples and Hollywood).
So your spouse's friends pretty much will have the same mindset.If your woman isn't the type of woman that knows and trust you and is also mature enough to stand up to her friends and take up for you instead of letting them sway her opinion of what you do on the road, your probably gonna start living a soap opera.
Some woman will start doubting the man's commitment. This can lead her to believe it's ok to do her own thing. She loses her feelings, forgets about the future plans, gets all the money she can from the driver and lives a double life (sometimes times in the drivers home while he's paying all the expenses).
Usually though, this happens only when the man shows sign of cheating. Imagine that. Some guys think that since it is miles away from home it won't matter, but it does count and it does matter.
Some guys feel that what she can't prove won't matter. Just use your big hear for a minute and you can easily see that it does matter because it will affect your behavior. But I digress, the point is that both people need to be serious about the relationship if you are going to be in a relationship, and you need to be in one with a quality person. (character, personality, compassion for people, etc.)
Those of you not familiar with drama in relationships may think I am exaggerating, trust me the following situations happens more often than you realize. Actually, I left out a lot of details that I have heard about like. . . The woman wiping out the bank account
It goes on and on.
Ladies and Gentlemen your spouse is not DUMB.
Hope Yes, There is hope. The impact of trucking on the family is not always a disaster. There are plenty of good big truck drivers who have driven a lifetime with wife and kids at home doing just fine. They have beautiful respectful families that can't wait to see them when they get home and think the world of them. They appreciate the job they do and they understand how much work it is.