Someone Get Me A Mirror

by Melisa
(Sandusky Oh)

Now, when I first found this site I loved it and thought that it was a great thin. I figured I could find some support in other truckers wives, but a lot of what I have found on here is bitterness and anger.

People look for positive help and and they get told "well you're a truckers wife/girlfriend, he's going to cheat on you."

I have voiced my opinion that my fiance is not cheating on me. Many people have essentially told me that I am delusional. So here's our story.

My trucker had a child at 17. He got charged with a receiving stolen property and 19(felony). At 24 he found his wife in bed with his best friend, and then when he just wanted the divorce over with quickly and STILL wanted to trust her, in haste he signed divorce papers that signed away the rights to his son.

At 38 he is now starting trucking, and getting to know his oldest son, while helping me raise my daughter and our son.

I first got engaged at 18. I had known the boy for 4 years. we lived together for a year when I found out I had Chlamydia. I had been checked the previous fall and hadn't been with anyone but him. Not exactly a friendly end to our relationship.

I then got back together with my childhood sweetheart and we had my daughter when I was 20. As I went through nursing school at the age age 22, he refused to work, so I worked full time and went to school full time. When he did get a good job, he messed it up.

I couldn't handle ti any more so I left. I was done I didn't want anything to do with nursing, or relationships after that. I met Ian while serving tables at the Holiday Inn.

We were two people that just didn't care. when I got pregnant we decided to try. Well that didn't work very well for us. Finally after a lot of soul searching, mistakes, and tears, I decided to go back into nursing, which was easier than I thought it would be at first.

I encouraged Ian to go into trucking, knowing his passion for driving. Knowing that I could trust him not to sleep with another woman. Then we got lucky enough that he got a dedicated run and is home almost every weekend.

we've been homeless, we've been dirt poor, we've done whatever it takes to survive. And we've done it together. Now we are stronger as a couple for it.

No one has our story, just as no one has any of yours. When people ask for advice lets take some advice from our parents. If you don't have anything nice to say , Don't say anything at all.

Lets try to help each other make it through the rough times. Lets stop thinking we know everything, we all sound childish when we whine and complain abut how bad our lives are. just think it could be a hell of a lot worse. Try sleeping in a cemetery.

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Dec 02, 2013
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I must say.... NEW
by: Anonymous

I totally agree with what your saying you should be able to seek a place where you can be uplifted and get a bit of advice from total strangers that are in the same situation your in. I'm excited to see your life has been completely turned around and your story is a true testament to another you g lady and man that potentially is going through the same thing. I find that some people would rather tear you down when there hurting then to lift you up. Well I celebrate your success and keep pushing forward together everyday.

Nov 14, 2013
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Soap opera drama queen!!!! NEW
by: Anonymous

Can't believe you are a nurse; you don't sound like a very bright one & you revealed too much personal information & you seem to have self-esteem issues that you need to prove yourself to everyone & tell all!

The 2 of you were both desperate so birds of a feather flock together & you better believe NO ONE has your story!

I have been visiting this site for over 2 years now only because my brother is an OTR trucker & trust me he doesn't plan on doing this for a long time, he is only doing it to gain experience to get a local drive that requires its drivers to have 3 years OTR experience & come June 2014 he will be done with OTR driving & will advise anyone that wants to do this that it is not for everyone.

My brother has been doing this since June 2011 & he is now on his 4th team driver. The first one that he got driving coast to coast quit because he couldn't handle it. The second one got called to active duty in the military. The third one was married & every time it was time for my brother to sleep in the sleeper berth, his team driver kept him awake by constantly fighting & arguing with his wife over trivial matters & had his team driver kicked off. So far his 4th team driver is married but pretty cool. They get along & the team driver is a devoted family man.

My brother is single & he is glad of that being an OTR driver. But he has 6 1/2 months to go & he can't wait to have OTR driving behind him & get the local driving job he wanted & he told me that since being on the road for over 2 years that some of these OTR drivers are a whole different class of people & I have pointed out to him about some commentors comments & he told me that no one can tell if they are coming from a wife, girlfriend or from another trucker! And since I am young, in my early 20s & my brother is 25, he has advised me to not get involved with an OTR trucker, that I would be disappointed & unhappy because he told me he has seen truckers change with their personalities. My brother doesn't even go into the driver's lounge to watch tv with them. He doesn't want to be around some of these drivers!

Nov 14, 2013
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Soap opera drama queen!!!! NEW
by: Anonymous

Can't believe you are a nurse; you don't sound like a very bright one & you revealed too much personal information & you seem to have self-esteem issues that you need to prove yourself to everyone & tell all!

The 2 of you were both desperate so birds of a feather flock together & you better believe NO ONE has your story!

I have been visiting this site for over 2 years now only because my brother is an OTR trucker & trust me he doesn't plan on doing this for a long time, he is only doing it to gain experience to get a local drive that requires its drivers to have 3 years OTR experience & come June 2014 he will be done with OTR driving & will advise anyone that wants to do this that it is not for everyone.

My brother has been doing this since June 2011 & he is now on his 4th team driver. The first one that he got driving coast to coast quit because he couldn't handle it. The second one got called to active duty in the military. The third one was married & every time it was time for my brother to sleep in the sleeper berth, his team driver kept him awake by constantly fighting & arguing with his wife over trivial matters & had his team driver kicked off. So far his 4th team driver is married but pretty cool. They get along & the team driver is a devoted family man.

My brother is single & he is glad of that being an OTR driver. But he has 6 1/2 months to go & he can't wait to have OTR driving behind him & get the local driving job he wanted & he told me that since being on the road for over 2 years that some of these OTR drivers are a whole different class of people & I have pointed out to him about some commentors comments & he told me that no one can tell if they are coming from a wife, girlfriend or from another trucker! And since I am young, in my early 20s & my brother is 25, he has advised me to not get involved with an OTR trucker, that I would be disappointed & unhappy because he told me he has seen truckers change with their personalities. My brother doesn't even go into the driver's lounge to watch tv with them. He doesn't want to be around some of these drivers!

Nov 13, 2013
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Truckers wives NEW
by: Anonymous

There is a very positive website you can come to! We all post the positive and even vent! But it feels better then ythis place does. Try www.cafemom.com. Look for truckers wives!

Nov 13, 2013
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I agree NEW
by: Anonymous

I agree with your post and the other 2 comments. No 2 comments will ever be the same and it is hard to get the dummies out of the world. We also learn lessons from those dumbies who choose to tear down others, so we dont act like that we need to see it first hand. Every one is different and has different belief systems, we as the logical people must accept that we have no control over others thoughts. People say the dumbest things. Just do your best to not read those types of posts or read to much into them.

Nov 12, 2013
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Agree NEW
by: Anonymous

I agree with you wholeheartedly 100% T!

Nov 12, 2013
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Good for you NEW
by: T

Glad to hear your life has turned around but this is also a place for people to vent and seek advice.
I agree we need to be nice to eachother but I also believe this is still a free country and if you put up a post on a sight like this you are inviting all comments...good or bad or indifferent. Some you may not want to hear but that doesn't mean the commenter is being mean or rude.
Good day!

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