New to the trucking world

by April
(Michigan)

My trucker and I met online in late November of 2008 so it hasn't been long, but the time that we have been together has been gut wrenching to say the least. I always told myself that I would not get involved with someone who wasn't home every night. However, I fell in love with this man right away. We only saw eachother 8 days in the month of December and less in January. Waiting for him to tell me when he's coming home is agonizing and watching him get back in that truck to go again is even worse. I cry everyday and go through my lonely anger spells. It's been tough to accept that this may be what I have to live with for years to come and I've thought about giving up, but I love him too much. I read through this website and found a lot of what it said to be true. This web site has emphasized the "trucker's life" and how much understanding the spouse must have but what hasn't emphasized is the life at home. The responsibilities, child rearing, full time job, chores... It takes alot to maintain a family life on one's own which in turn needs equal understanding from the trucker. I have a real tough time with this adjustment but I am trying my hardest to accept it. The adjustment process has been challenging and has taken it's toll on our relationship but I am still hanging in there. Truckers jobs are just as important as everyone else's. Everyone's job makes this world go round in some fashion. It takes a lot of strength and determination from both sides to make a relationship work where one spouse travels. Good luck to everyone in a "trucker's life" and thank you to all the hard work and hours these people put in.