Need advice on how to be a supportive truckers wife!

by Vickeybear
(Iowa)

My husband and I have been married 24 years. He recently had an affair and to make a long story short, we are both committed to working things out.

He quit his job of 22 years to get away from the affair partner. He has chosen truck driving as his new career. He is in his second week of training with otr trucking company.

I realize this lifestyle is going to be hard especially since our marital situation is already fragile. We are making progress in rebuilding our marriage and he has shown a true regret for things he has done and is taking steps to rebuild my trust.

I want to become an example of an excellent truckers wife and continue to rebuild my marriage despite the roadblocks of being away from each other for long periods of time.

I am looking for positive advice on how I can effectively show my support and appreciation for him both while he is on the road and when he comes home.

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Jul 29, 2015
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Following own interests NEW
by: Anonymous

I feel guilty if I follow my own interests though. Won't that make the relationship worse? We have been married for 30 years, the kids are grown and I work full time. He just started a new career in trucking. I'm a little resentful right now about having to do most of the things on the home front. Although he's pretty good about doing stuff when he comes home. Any other advise on following your own interests? How do you make friends after 30 years of just the two of you?

Jun 26, 2014
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Thank You NEW
by: scottswife

Thank you for your story. If you get this message, maybe you could give an update. Dealing with an affair is hard enough. My husband just started his new job after graduating last week with his CDL. He is at orientation now. And, sometimes reading the horror stories starts to really get me down. Some days I want to be supportive, others I think I need to do something to protect myself from being hurt.

Anyway, to the other two comments, thank you for the link, and the advice to stay busy and strengthen myself. I hope our marriage improves over the years. Sometimes absence can make the heart grow fonder.

Nov 09, 2013
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Being an excellent trucker's wife NEW
by: Hervy

Vickeybear, you will be an excellent trucker's wife.

Visit this page and download this pdf to use to have conversations around with your husband. It will pretty much give both of you the information you need to supply each others needs.

Trucking relationships downloadable tips for discussion

Also, the supportive wife post in response to your post was excellent advice that I hope you will take to heart.

Don't worry, you will do just fine!

Nov 06, 2013
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Supportive wife NEW
by: Anonymous

You will spend lots of time on your own. Take advantage of the opportunity to develop your independence and do some of the things you always wanted to do but didn't just because there was always tomorrow. The more you pursue your own interests, the happier you'll be.
Be supportive of the loneliness and frustration that goes with the occupation. When he does come home, you'll make time for him between your activities. My experience has been after 25 years our relationship has only gotten stronger. I'm definitely not the same person I was in 1988 when he went on the road. You will have two routines: one when he's there another when he's gone.
I am much more self assured. He feels supported because he knows I'm taking care of business when he can't be with us. Occasionally I do have tantrums and pity parties but as the years go by they are less frequent. Be proud of his new calling and he will learn to be proud of the woman you are.

Nov 06, 2013
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by: Anonymous

wishing you the best good luck and be patient.

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