Mentally sick or influenced by undesirables
My husband has been trucking for close to a year which was against my wishes but he only went to trucking because he has problems working with authority figures & probably has a personality disorder because he got fired from 2 jobs & a friend of his suggested that he is better off doing trucking because you don't have a supervisor over you.
Since he has been trucking I have noticed several changes in his personality & even my neighbor friend has noticed.
We live in an apartment complex & we have a new property manager & my husband does not like her because she allows the one maintenance guy get away with not doing work.
My husband said to me on the phone that she is nothing but a c**t, the 4 letter C word & he has never used that word but on the other hand he never called the maintenance guy a p***k, the 5 letter word for a guy & I told him I did not appreciate his mouth.
My neighbor friend who I have been friends with since my husband took up trucking has told me she does not like my husband & she is a divorcee with a 11 year old daughter, the same age as my daughter & they are good friends.
My friend is a school teacher & her daughter has stayed over my place while her mom spent time with her boyfriend & she told me her daughter feels nervous around my husband.
Well my friend just told me my husband is either a mentally sick monster or he is getting influenced by others out there & she has also told me that she can bet my husband is with women, either lot lizards or female drivers by what my husband did these past couple of days.
We had a disagreement on the phone this weekend that passed & I did not answer the phone when caller ID showed it was him. He then leaves nasty toned voicemails.
I have told him I will not be dominated or controlled by him & he will not speak to me in a disrespectful tone, he totally ignores my wishes. He left me a nasty text saying it's over, he will call the phone carrier & shut off my phone & then have $300.00 taken out of his pay for him every week.
I showed that to my friend & she said Bingo, I told you he had others, probably got someone pregnant, & my friend said to me that she believes wholeheartedly that guys become OTR truckers to play the field because no way will they be caught!
Also I have had several phone calls to my phone which I did not answer because the screen said restricted but left voicemails & no one said anything but after a few seconds they hung up.
Now may I remind you again my friend is a school teacher & she had several courses in psychology & one was abnormal psychology & she said my husband is definitely abnormal!
I have done nothing to push him to this point of being this way. And please do not tell me marriage counseling because I do not have the money or the time & my friend went to one & she said all they do is take your money, sit & listen & have a timer set for 50 minutes & she did this for 12 weeks & still the counselor sat quietly rocking away in his chair listening to her & she spent $50.00 co-pay each week & she never got anything resolved!
Oh & by the way, my husband after he wrote that, he had the gall to say that I know damn well he loves me! If he loved me, he would have never threatened me.
I have nowhere to go with my daughter as I am the only child & my parents are both dead because they both died in a car accident.
My friend found out for me that since my husband does not physically abuse both my daughter & I, it'll be really hard to go to a shelter or get a restraining order. I am at my wit's end!
Has any other wife or girlfriend had similar problems? My husband is not thinking how this affects me toward him meaning my husband is the type to talk like this but expect me to be loving to him in bed, if anything it'll make me cringe & wanna barf if he touches me!