long story!

by paula mowers
(phoenix,arizona)

Husband and i married in Ohio, his home town and we moved to AZ. my home town to start a new life together.

He got the o.t.r. truckin job promising to go local after one year,i rode with him most of that one year. After the year was up, i ask him about it and he said that he cant go local because hes buying the truck and he can't make enough money driving local to pay for the truck.

First off he didn't even tell me he was buying the truck,i found out for myself 3 months later.
so he says if i get my cdls we can pay off the truck quicker,and make more money.

I got my cdl permit now,but he wont teach me to drive,he says its against company policy to let me drive.

So here's the thing ,i have been riding with him for almost three years now and im tired of being out on the road all the time so.....when i don't ride along with him he gets angry and says that i should be helping him drive so we can make more money, but yet he wont teach me or save the money to put me through driving school.

Last year he says he only had one more year to pay off the truck and now this year its one more year until the trucks paid off.

Its going on three years now...he wont rent us a place in AZ, which is where we do home time, cause he says that we have a roof over our head living in the truck. I know he just don't want to rent a place cause he doesn't want me to stay home?

thx. for reading..hope you can understand what I'm trying to say..

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Dec 27, 2012
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sad story NEW
by: Hervy

Is he deceitful and prone to lie?

Is he controlling?

Is he abusive?

The answer to these questions should cause you to think and make some important decisions about what you need to do. For starters if counseling is needed, it should be done immediately.

Is this your destiny in life?

Do you have personal goals?

Do you have a life purpose?

How does the current situation end?

You may need to have a conversation about the REAL plans for the future both short and long term as a couple. Including your roles in the relationship.

Dates for action stops is necessary in order to make these plans a reality. When are you getting your license? How are you paying for it?

Plus, since there is a history of misunderstanding about the truck being paid off, lets verify it with paperwork.

Can't plan for the future based on guessing.

Also, you local workforce or community college might have some very cheap training for you to get your CDL license.

There may also be owner operators in your area with their own authority that will teach you to drive. Post a flyer in your local truckstop near the drivers lounge if they have a board to do so.

Hope everything works out

Dec 27, 2012
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by: Anonymous

do what you must to survive....but as soon as you are able to get on your own 2 feet get the hell out...he is manipulating you and I am sure you already know this.....so it is up to you to face the truth about your situation and do what you must do for yourself.....its not good for you to be living in a lying, manipulating marriage.... rules have been broken like trust, and honesty.......

Dec 26, 2012
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long story! NEW
by: Anonymous

it seems that you guys have a communiction problem.

Dec 26, 2012
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HUH??? NEW
by: Anonymous

Leave his stupid azz...Do you not see you are a slave to him???

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