Liktoheartruth. when will the heart lead to someone who wants something real
This is a great response and oh so true. I almost dated a navy officer, but he showed me early enough thank goodness that he could be verbally, emotionally and possibly physically abusive.
He only let it slip because of how long we had been so called friends before we almost dated. So when he got upset with me about (I am still not sure, but it had to do with "I cut him of while he was speaking) and he began slamming the phone down in my ear, yelling at the top of his voice to me and taking apart my character...I ran.
I actually had a relationship with a real estate agent (top of his game), he never wanted to commit. I thought it was just me. Now it has been 10 years since we dated.
He's been in a relationship with another woman for 8 years. In all this times she has lived in another state. No marriage, no bringing their lives together even though they share a kid.
That situation would have NEVER worked for me. When I ask him about it, he just says, he has what works for him and he sees her when he sees her, but for him it is enough. To each his own, but that just isn't me.
Now I am dating a trucker. Am I worried? Yes! He says all the right things, but I've seen him 4 times in 8 months. He got out of training in August. He's regional for east coast, but he seems to still get sent all over.
He says he wants me to come ride with him. Hasn't happened yet and when we talk about it, I hear little effort from him to make it happen.
I already know that he is spending none of this year's holidays with me. Says he can't control his schedule or where he ends up. He hasn't been to see me in my home state. We haven't met each others families.
At a point and a certain age, you don't even lie to yourself about what your situation is or isn't. Despite what they say, it is all about what they do, but such men are everywhere.
I don't have time to blame his profession. I just wish my radar would land on someone who wants something real with me.