Enjoying home time.

by Paul
(Mn)

Hello

I'm a regional drive (out 5 home for 2) my problem is I am excited when I get home to see the wife and kids however, after a couple hours reality sets in and the kids are squawking,the wife has a honey do list a mile long etc etc.

Lately it seems like coming home is more of a chore than anything else.

Do you have any advice?

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Apr 26, 2016
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As a truckers woman. . NEW
by: Anonymous

I have been with my man for 5 years. He is OTR and one of the most selfish and intolerable human beings I have ever met, except when it comes to our 2 very young children. Money doesn't buy love. Please pass this on before you are stuck too.

Jan 13, 2014
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by: Hervy

Paul, Balliet in my opinion gave you some excellent feedback.

I think you might consider that 5 days away from what you mention is a chore is a break that most guys don't have.

More importantly, she is there in that environment all of the time.

Something else that you might consider is the fact that your family needs you and appreciate you for more than the check you make. That's awesome! Some guys feel that the family at home could care less about anything but him paying the bills.

How would you feel if the wife actually did everything and when you came home, you were needed for nothing. You would feel easily replaceable and less manly. (Don't auto respond to this thought. Seriously think about it. Every man wants to feel needed.)

What you are experiencing can be looked at from a different perspective than the way you are looking at it. You must choose to see it differently.

Take pride in the fact that your family looks forward to you coming home for those 2 days. Take joy in getting the honey do list done. When you actually complete everything possible instead of putting things off, the list will either all but disappear or be made of things that are not that difficult or demanding to do.

Take pleasure in being able to experience your kids growing up and going through stages in life. Some kids are unable to express themselves. Some families can't have kids and would give anything to have that all of the experience!

Enjoy your family man. You are a husband and a father. There are some things that you should expect along with that role. Be the best husband and father that you can be. I think you will find your time at home exciting and rewarding.

Jan 13, 2014
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by: Balliet

Please open your eyes and heart and see it from both sides. I am new at this truck wife title. I have a full time job and two boys, my husband is gone 4 to 8 weeks at a time. It has been a struggle for the both of us. I am the spoiled wife and I am not talking about my husband buying me everything I want, I am talking about he opens all my doors, runs to the store for me even if it is because I am craving something small down to him starting my shower for me every night. There are always thing that need to be done around the house but I have learned how to do them myself or ask a friend or a friends husband for help. As a wife I know that my husband is out on the road dealing with all the crazy people and weather, at the same time my husband has come to know that there are thing that I can not physically do or have the know how to do. The occupation of a truck driver or a wife of a truck driver is lifestyle in its self and takes time to get use to. Whatever the situation is that caused one to take on this type of job must have been an important one, so please before you start getting mad at the other loved one husband or wife open up your eyes and heart to see what they other one is feeling a dealing with, and try to find a Happy Medium for both. If you love the other person it is worth it.

Jan 13, 2014
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by: Anonymous

Ok this is one of those women that has a husband gone for a month or more.When he get home he's home for maybe 3days tops. There are things that he needs to do while he's here. As for the kids most men don't want to be bother anyway with them. But what about us who stay home and deal with it all for long periods of time.
Men are selfish when it what they want. We who stay home don't need to hear all you men saying things like this. Remember if you didn't want a family then you should have stayed single. Kids are a joy and remember they are just kids and need the dads guidene to.

Jan 13, 2014
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by: Anonymous

Just like the rest of us drivers , can't wait to GET home,then, can't wait to get back in the truck! Issues at home and peace in the truck!!!

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