Dazed and Confused - does he want me or not

Hi, everyone. So, I have been dating my trucker for 5 and a half months, 2 of which hr has been OTR. I miss him a lot!

I think driving has changed him a lot. The last time we were together in person we talked about getting married and having kids one day. However, lately our communication has not been good. He doesn't call or text me at all. This has been going on for about 8 weeks. I text him but he does not respond.

When I call him he always answers. The first thing out of his mouth is always "baby I love you and I miss you". He drives 9hrs/day. I know that he is tired. I can hear it in his voice and he tells me. I just feel confused because I don't know if he wants to be with me or not. I love him. I just wish he would make more of an effort OTR to talk to me.

This lifestyle is not easy, but I am all in if he is. Not sure if he is. Any advice or insight is appreciated.

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Apr 08, 2015
point of view from my story NEW
by: Anonymous

I don't have advice but I know that my hubby went out to work in the oil fields and only comes home for 2-3days once a month.Things have truly changed.He goes back and fourth.One day he loves me and talks to me and another he don't answer and tells me to do what I want.i know he's drinking on those days but with who exactly idk.Its hard it hurts and I am afraid he will meets someone else and start a whole new family.I know when he sees me he loves me but bring gone so long he seems to forget. Their is so much temptation and we've been together ten years and have 4 step/&kids. Anything new is always fun for a guy and that sucks. I wish all guys were just loyal and had that I just met her head over heals love forever but in time I think men get bored when women get more attached. I think all we could do is hope our men respect us and think of us before they put themselves in someone else's pants.And if we catch them you have to make a decision. Just hope he didn't fall in love because than your relationship is doomed

Feb 18, 2015
I know how you feel! NEW
by: Erin

I know exactly what you are going through, it's about to kill me, my husband is off sometimes on the weekends and I still don't talk to him like I should, it's about to kill me!!

Feb 14, 2015
Re: Dazed and Confused NEW
by: Teamster #1

Hervy's right! You need to open up the line of communication a lot more. Make sure that you are both on the same page as far as each other's needs. Making each other feel secure is a joint effort.

Feb 13, 2015
Tell him how you feel
by: Hervy

Often we allow ourselves to believe that the other person knows how we feel. Usually that is not the case. The other person see the issue from another perspective.

Have a conversation about the relationship. Tell him, you have been reading about how drives relations have fallen apart and things that could be done to keep them strong. Since you want to keep them strong, you will do the things that successful couples suggest.

Ask him what things can you do differently to improve the relationship. Then when it is your turn to do the same explain what makes you secure about the relationships.

A lot of women complain that when they call they get no answer. Its good he answers when you call. Maybe he doesn't respond to texts at the time is because he is driving.

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