Being married to a trucker

by Nikki White
(Atlanta, Georgia)


People don't have a clue about being a wife of a trucker. They look at you like you got it made. "As if!" Being a trucker's wife is a hard job. Being a trucker's wife and a mother on top of that is even harder.

Not only do the wife have to multi-task, housework, laundry, run errands, pay the bills, when and if she receives a check from her husband. But, she also has the task of caring for the needs of their children school work, cooking, after school activities. In if she has an outside job Lord help her.

A trucker wife has to manage and balance the income while her husband is away. She has to do the oil changes on the cars, any repairs that need to be meet, and let's not forget about that forest that grows in the front yard yes, "mow the lawn."

She has to be a mom and dad to the children, along with running her husband errands. A trucker wife has to make sure things run as smooth as possible while her better half is on the road.

A trucker's wife dream of a fairy tale marriage was buried when that eighteen wheel giant pulled up to her front doorstep. Now she has to deal with the love of her life being gone 75% of the time, while she's home alone taking care of the fort.

She has to deal with the public in their opinion that do not have a clue, nor understand what our way of life is all about. She constantly has to defend her husbands profession and the choices that they both make for their family, each and everyday of her life.

She has to deal with being alone and having to protect her family and keep everything secure so her self and her kids will not be harmed if anyone tries to intrude into their space.

A trucker's wife has to deal with her parents and In-laws with their comments and opinions. She has to sit back in smile at the family gatherings and on the holidays when her husband is unable to be home enjoying a nice birthday or Thanksgiving holiday. She has to hold her head high and sacrifice celebrating her wedding anniversary and other special occasions on another day of the year.

When her husband comes home she has to put her life on hold so she can enjoy and relax for the 1-2 days her husband is home. Along with satisfying his needs, washing extra loads of clothes and bedding and put up with his some time grouchiness from being tired and not wanting to go out or visit family or events with her. She has to listen to him bitch about the conditions out there on the road and with the shippers, brokers, and customers. She has to be the support system he needs to release his frustration and pain when the time calls for it. She has to listen to him grip about money, how expensive things are on the road, asking can she cut back on something to make it better for this or that reasons. Like her budget isn't already tight enough.

She has to have trust and faith in her mate, not to accuse him of cheating. A trucker's wife life isn't an easy one. It's a demanding one who has to be independent, strong willed, patient, very tolerant, and understanding. If you really care for your husband you will have no problem with the sacrifices and changes you will have to deal with in the trucking industry.

With trust and communication you will be able to deal with the daily trails and tribulations of the trucking industry. Your marriage will make it!


To learn more about me and my life as a Trucker's Wife visit http://www.lonerwife.blogspot.com/

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Sep 03, 2014
its a choice NEW
by: Anonymous

It's a choice to be a truckers wife. But from an ATL girl who knows first hand, most are cheating, and half the time have a girl riding with them while the wife is at home saving the day.

Most companies give vacation and time home so I can't see why one wouldn't be home on holidays. I know the roads are rough. I've seen how hard it is out there for truckers. That's why I can't blame them fully for the wrong they do, they get lonely.

But just like being a single mom, truckers wives have to handle a lot. The only difference is trucker wives chose that life. Just like any other career.

Jun 04, 2014
love it!!!! NEW
by: Anonymous

Amen I agree with everything you said.

Jun 04, 2014
love it!!!! NEW
by: Anonymous

Amen I agree with everything you said.

Oct 29, 2013
YES NEW
by: Jenifer

You nailed it girl! I live in Cartersville, GA and would love to hook up with other truckers wives and maybe we can be each others support and help one another hold the fort down, watch out for one another, keep that grass cut, etc. etc.

Oct 29, 2013
YES NEW
by: Jenifer

You nailed it girl! I live in Cartersville, GA and would love to hook up with other truckers wives and maybe we can be each others support and help one another hold the fort down, watch out for one another, keep that grass cut, etc. etc.

Mar 01, 2012
support NEW
by: Anonymous

I want to thank Nikki White for her informative and possitive letter about how to make it as a truckers wife.

Very Nice! Thanks for the support and encouragement. I appreciate it!

Nadynne Suderman

Mar 01, 2012
support NEW
by: Anonymous

I want to thank Nikki White for her informative and possitive letter about how to make it as a truckers wife.

Very Nice! Thanks for the support and encouragement. I appreciate it!

Nadynne Suderman

Feb 07, 2012
ill help out NEW
by: Anonymous

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Mar 19, 2010
Almost complete, a little more to add. Need some more advice...
by: Pregant Trucker's Wife

I could not have worded it better myself. It is re-assuring to read that others feel the exact same and deal with the exact same issues that I am feeling and dealing with my my husband being over the road.

As always, to make it worse. As proud as we are internally about ourselves and our husbands to be able to manage and live with such a hard life decision, the general public seem to all have such a bad view on OTR truckers. They have this stigma against them as if they are all old dirty over weight perverted disgusting men. As WE know, that is not all true!

Along with having to deal with all of the extras you mentioned when he IS home, you did forget one thing. Not that it is hard enough to only have him home a couple days here and there but you also have to put your selfishness aside and share him with family and friends.

My husband and I dated for over 8 years before we married. He was not a truck driver then, but had his own tile and floor covering business. As the economy diminished, so did the construction and there fore so did the business. My husband took my father and cousins advice (as they are truck drivers too) and began his life on the road. At this point, we had only been married for a little less than 4 months. About a month after our 1 year anniversary we got great news, we found out we were expecting our first child! As great as this gift is, it did bring on a whole new spectrum of complications. Family is VERY important to us. This really hurts him to know he will most likely miss most of the milestones in my pregnancy and in out child's life. I am not 4 months pregnant, and I scheduled my ultrasound 6 1/2 weeks ahead of time and on a Monday knowing he is usually home on Mondays to insure he would be present. A couple hours ago we just found out he has to take an extra run and there is a 50/50 chance he will make it. The appointment is now only about a week away. If he is able to make it he will have been up all night driving before the appointment. This news was devastating to us both and I need to know how to deal.... It also brought on more things that I had not though of before like...what are the chances of him actually be able to be home to be with me as we welcome our little one into the world!? Please help as I am at a lost on how to deal with this...

Jan 29, 2010
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by: Anonymous

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Jan 29, 2010
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by: Anonymous

we know how you feel. You said it very well. There is also a Facebook goup come so you cna feel supported and encouraged. My name is Angie, I have been a driver's wife for 22 yrs.

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