Trucker don't want to come home to see wife and daughter, Am I Overreacting?

by Trina
(Carson City, Nevada )

Hi, I am married to a truck driver and I have a 3 year old daughter. These last four months have been very difficult for me because he has been gone for a month at a time and I have missed him terribly.

Now that he is done with his training and is out on his own he is able to ask for a couple days off to come home every two weeks. The problem I am having is that I am very upset because I want him to come home to see his daughter and I as soon as he is able to instead he decided he was going to wait an extra week to come home because his little sister is having a birthday party and his other siblings from out of state are coming down for her birthday.

I understand that he wants to see his family, but I dont seem to comprehend why he wouldn't want to see his wife and child sooner.

I guess the way I see it is that if I was away "working", away from my husband and away from my child, I would want to see them as soon as I could. The whole situation make me feel like my daughter and I are not as important.

He states "Its just another week" he doesn't understand that another week seems like an eternity. I am trying to ignore it but I cant, his decision has really upset me, I am annoyed, sad, mad.

I dont know how to react to it. Am I overreacting? I work full time, go to school full time, and also have my daughter to take care of, so its not that I just have extra time in my hands and am looking for something to be mad about.

It just doesn't make sense to me why anything would be more important to wait off on seeing your wife and daughter, besides a tragedy or really super important event like a wedding? (not a 15 year olds birthday?)

Please help, I dont know who to talk to because no one knows what it feels like to be married to someone who is rarely home.