Truck driver's wife for 25 yrs and still working on it
I am a driver's wife and he has been driving for 18 years. I supported him in his career and raised the children mostly by myself.
It is not only hard on wives, but its harder on the children. When he would come home, he didn't want to be bothered by the children. Each wanting his attention.
When the children are small and with their activities they do all week long and then Daddy's home, it's crazy. They didn't understand why Daddy wouldn't play with them, never being there at school advents. Missing games and practices.
One time my husband picked up our daughter from a ROTC camp and her friends didn't even know she had a Dad. The ladies at church thought I was a widow, because they never saw my husband at church. I was always alone with the children.
Don't get me wrong, He loves his children, but our daughter grew up in a blink of an eye and he missed most of it.
I did most of the up keep at the house the man's work and the woman's work. I grew resentful that I was doing everything, plus working at part time jobs and all he did was drive a truck!
We grew apart and he found other women to be there for him. As, the children got older, they started seeing Daddy in a new light. My daughter today has Daddy's issue and our son is doing his best to understand his Dad.
I was faced with a decision about two year ago. My husband asked for a divorce! This was after I found out about the affairs and 10 years of a woman that claimed to have had a child from him.
She would call the house and she knew all about my husband life. She would send pictures of the girl around the holidays. After this woman, there were more that he wander to because my heart grew black and cold towards him, but I made a commitment to God in my marriage vows and to my children.
I'm no angel and I'm a hard headed woman with strong convictions. I choose not to divorce and to face our problems. I felt if I didn't try and work on my marriage, how could I move on if I had to.
I didn't want to live with regrets and what if. I love my husband and he is a good guy. We always had a roof over our heads, food in the pantry and clothes on our backs.
We faced our demons and changed our ways, well some ways are still being worked on and that is of cause the woman. There is one in Elkin, NC named Selena. She targets truck drivers. Their affair went on for around 5 years.
She used my husband and then dumped him. Her MO is to do this to truck drivers. She also like to rear her ugly head once the driver gets his act together and texts and calls. Opening old wounds and starting trouble again.
She is another one that's like to do it over the holidays. Her number is 336removed off I77 in NC, Kangaroo. or, the Wilcho at the next exit down.
She calls other drivers lets them know who comes in the store. She gives out truckers information to others truckers. She likes to start trouble in a bad way and she has affairs with married or single, guys or gals.
The woman has major issues, a real nut case. Well, my husband and I are working on our marriage and hopefully we will be celebrating our 25th Anniversary this May. all I can say is a trucking life is hard on all, not just the drivers, but ALL.
Read Proverbs and be thankful for what you have and not what you want.