Too much drama with this trucker
by No Drama Queen
My fiance has been driving over the road for a year now. When he first started driving we talked on the phone a lot. I mean like 8-10 hrs a day!
Part of the reason for talking so much was so I could keep track of where he was and what he was doing.
I had very good reasons for not trusting him. He had some social networking accounts with a lot of female friends and he didn't see anything wrong with having their phone numbers and talking to them while he was driving. But what really bothered me was when I discovered that he'd been e-mailing some of them and would tell them he was going to be close to their town and "would love to meet them for lunch...just as friends".
We've come a long way since then in this past year and I'm about 85% convinced that he's not doing that any longer. He's deleted all their numbers, deleted his social networking accounts, removed them from his yahoo messenger friends list and no longer has a computer in the truck.
He's talked a lot about wanting to quit driving and find a job close to home. I'm a web designer and work from home. When he told me that he wanted to quit driving I was excited that he would be able to spend more time with us. (I have 4 kids living at home) Over the next couple of days we talked a lot about what had to be done before he could quit his driving job and decided that I needed to spend more time working towards expanding my client base so we had a steady income while he was looking for a new job.
We agreed that he would continue to drive for two more years while I worked on the business. We also discussed how I needed to set aside more time each day and devote that time to building the business.
That's when we hit another rough spot. When I was no longer spending as many hours on the phone with him every day he started accusing me of cheating on him. Every phone call turned into a fight and he was constantly accusing me and yelling at me.
If I would tell him I needed to get off the phone to get some work done he would start texting me to fight with me. This has been going on for four months.
We've started working through this and he realizes now there was no reason to accuse me.
For the most part the fighting has stopped but now he's extremely clingy. He calls constantly and if I'm trying to work then he wants to just sit on the phone and listen to me work (but he can't keep quiet long enough to let me concentrate).
He whines about how he hates being on the road, asks for time off all the time or asks to have them schedule loads close to home so he can spend time at home, complains about how hard his life is and how he's so bored, and etc.
Can anyone tell me if all of this is a normal part of being with a trucker? I'm getting to the point that I don't want to talk to him and don't want him to come home for home time.
If life is going to be like this for the next 2 years there may not be any wedding in our future.