Thinking of moving closer to Husbands job but his friend is a problem.
by Christine M
My husband and I have been married for 7 years and I love him very much. He has always worked away from home. His previous job was "Wildland Firefighter". So he was gone a lot but he was home 3 full months out of the year.
We decided together on him changing jobs because he is getting older and he said trucking was the way to go because of the money. We discussed it for 3 months in and out. He has been trucking for 3 yrs now and He enjoys it. The problem started when he met a man with whom he works with and they became really good friends. Which is great that he made friends.
This 1 friend is very close to him and later 2014 and early 2015, The kids and I saw him 17 days in a 12 month period. Plus something happened that made me have doubts. Anyway. We have a toddler and 2 teens. We are thinking about moving closer to the main Hub so that we see him more and he does not miss out on his little one growing up.
My concern is the reason he only spent 17 days with us is because of this friend. Now we are moving closer to the Main Hub, but also closer to this friend. Now my fear is that he will spend all of his off time playing golf with this friend and his family will sacrifice and we will be out there alone with no family.
It will be just me and the kids.
I think of it as an adventure but I do have my doubts about moving. He drives through the Main hub state 5 or 6 times a month. Just do not know how much of that time would be spent with the friend instead of family. I have questioned it and it started an argument because 2014 and 2015 have just played over and over in my head.
Not sure what to do. Stay here and let teens finish school and not see him but 3 or 4 weeks a year or take a chance and move out there so he does not miss his little one growing up and uproot the family. Take a chance on this friend.
I will say this about his friend which I have never said about any of his friends is that he is very manipulative and my husband just follows along. And he is a total ASSHOLE and is not afraid to tell anyone that he is. Please advice anything will help