Should I bail or give it a try

I recently met this guy online about a month ago. His route allows him to stop over 2 times a week usually just for 6 hours one day then a little longer the next. We talk usually daily and text and skype non stop.

I am really liking him and considering possibly dating him. And honestly for me its an ideal situation.I have my career and work 50-60 hours a week. I am in school full time and have a young child and have been on my own for the past two years. So I think it allows us time to really get to know each other without any obligations.

My concern is all my friends.Which none of them have trucker husbands or boyfriends says I shouldn't waste my time. That he probably has women lined up all on his route. I have asked him this and he has stated no. He has been quite frank and honest with anything I have asked him.

So do I just go with it. Or should I bail before too much time is invested.

Thanks
Tori

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Oct 30, 2013
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Leaving NEW
by: Anonymous

It does but it doesn't. I used to burst into tears most times. I don't anymore. But it's been over two decades now. I guess you could say I've adjusted.
Like most people who kiss their spouse every morning as they go off to work, I do the same with mine, depending on the time of year, it can be once every 3 to 6 weeks.
I have two routines I slip in and out of: the one when he's there and the one when he's not. In between we talk on the phone.
I like taking long walks. If he's home, he goes with me or not. When he's gone, I take my phone with me. If he has stopped for the day, we can talk as I walk. Thanks to the Blue Parrot, we can talk while he!s driving down a long stretch of freeway.
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Jul 10, 2013
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Couldnt be happier NEW
by: tori

Just wanted to say its been 5 weeks now and everything is going great. I couldnt ask for a better person to spend time with and invest my time and emotions into. But I do have a question? Does the leaving ever get easier? It seems to me that each time we see each other it gets harder to say goodbye.Just curious.

Jun 26, 2013
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Thanks NEW
by: Tori

Thanks for the other perpective. And as of today we are still seeing each other 2x week and things have been going great. We still talk daily and when we do see each other its pretty amazing. We just sit and talk about everything and nothing. We have discussed what we are both looking for and both have agreed something longterm eventually is our goal. But we both also have agreed that we both have other obligations right now. He wants to get 2 years under his belt before looking for a local route and I am busy finishing my MSN and will be done in two years.So we are going to enjoy each others company when we can and see how this friendship progresses. Worse case scenario I end up with a good friend.Plus its actually been awesome having someone court me..Its been a long time and Im enjoying every minute of it. So who knows what might happen...

Jun 26, 2013
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by: Tori

Thanks for the other perpective. And as of today we are still seeing each other 2x week and things have been going great. We still talk daily and when we do see each other its pretty amazing. We just sit and talk about everything and nothing. We have discussed what we are both looking for and both have agreed something longterm eventually is our goal. But we both also have agreed that we both have other obligations right now. He wants to get 2 years under his belt before looking for a local route and I am busy finishing my MSN and will be done in two years.So we are going to enjoy each others company when we can and see how this friendship progresses. Worse case scenario I end up with a good friend.Plus its actually been awesome having someone court me..Its been a long time and Im enjoying every minute of it. So who knows what might happen...

Jun 21, 2013
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try or fly NEW
by: Hervy

Tori, I think you might need to clarify things for yourself. The reason I say this is because you said, “honestly its an ideal situation........it allows us time to really get to know each other without any obligation.”

What exactly are the boundaries and rules for the relationship. Are you two on the same page?

You later said should you bail before too much time is invested.

If there is no obligation on either of you, then it shouldn't be seen as time invested in that way. In other words what are you expecting from the relationship? What does he expect from the relationship?

Here is the bigger question for you. Are you ready for this journey? Will this new situation keep you from achieving your goals while working full time, going to school full time and being an awesome parent?

The only reason I present this to you is because of how many people I have seen allow themselves to become sidetracked from doing something significant for themselves (finishing school for instance...) because of a relationship (either sacrificing intentionally or from the stressed it causes) that doesn't work out.

Often the stress comes from the 2 not being on the same page, having the same expectations for the relationship or at least one person simply not knowing how to have a healthy relationship.

Either of which will cause serious problems down the road.

So I think you have to be honest with yourself about where you are in life and what you really want in your relationship. If you don't want anything serious, don't let your friends comments bother you.

However, realize your are in fact investing a lot of time. Both of you guys sound awesome and the relationships seems good now, it can go another direction real easy if you both don't have the same goal and conduct yourselves with that goal in mind.

So make specific agreements about the relationship so you know what to expect of each other. Then you bail if those objectives are not met. You won't beat yourself up later if it doesn't work out.

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