Sad

by Sophia
(Canada)

I'm a truckers girlfriend, relatively new.

Sometimes I feel like I miss him more then he misses me. I understand that being on the road can very stressful and tiresome a lot of the time so I tend to just ignore these feelings until they pass.

In the beginning he seemed more cheerful and excited when we would chat on the phone. Now, I get the impression that for him it feels more like an obligation.

We don't get to see each other very often so is it too much to ask that I want to get as much time with him in when he is home?

I think just writing this is making me feel better. I just get myself worked up for nothing. It really is true when people say that you can love someone so much it hurts.

Our relationship is great. When we are together I could never be happier. I think that being on the road just makes him tired and cranky, and I'm taking it too personally when he sounds edgy on the phone sometimes.

Okay, I'm done my little rant. I actually do feel a lot better. How do you cope when you get sad or miss your man?

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Oct 07, 2013
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by: Sophia

Haha I actually forgot about this post until just now when I recieved an email that a new comment had been posted. I figured I might as well let you all know that everything is fine. I remember those days when I felt really sad and alone, but I stuck through it, and I'm glad that I did. He currently has a new job, new location which is a bit of a bummer, but I love him more each day. Thanks for help and words of kindness :).

Oct 07, 2013
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by: Anonymous

It can work if you are a self sufficient and independent woman. Otherwise, it will be tough.

Dec 27, 2012
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by: Hervy

Sophia I am so glad it was that easier to feel better ;-).

Getting things off your chest definitely helps.

However, there is something to work out, since you said there is a change in how he acts toward you.

Take a look to see if there have been any changes in the relationship.

Make sure you are still looking sexy, are not ONLY naggin him when on the phone. (I only said that because this happens and it can cause a display of distancing for some men)

The best thing to do is ask him directly if there is a reason for it. If he genuinely says no, then you are probably right, just don't take it personally.

In this case, what you can do is be exta perky, happy, supportive, loving when he DOES call.

This will make him want to call more especially if the job is making him grumpy. In other words, figure out how you can be someone that he can't wait to call. Make yourself relief from his job.

I bet he would love to hear you tell him how much you love him and look forward to when he get's home again. Tell him about the surprise that you have for him when he returns.

Here are some more thoughts and advice about trucker relationships

Dec 25, 2012
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by: Anonymous

I am a bit confused over your post...but well okay if this is what works for you thats good.

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