Really Want to Be Supportive But Not Sure How

by Linda
(Indianapolis, In.)

I've been dating a trucker for just over 2 short months. I am 55. He is 59. He's been a truck driver for 35yrs. He was married almost 28 years and then his wife dumped him. He raised her 3 children. He's sure she was seeing another man.
After reading most of these postings, I'm not surprised.

Being involved with a trucker is a difficult life. I can't imagine raising a family with a trucker. I was married to a career army man. My dad was a career army man. I do know the lonely life but I think being a trucker's wife has hard challenges.

I feel very strongly about this man and want to support him but I can't get him to tell me about his life on the road. He thinks it will bore me or I won't understand. I'm trying to research it as much as possible as I feel the more I know, the less misunderstandings could arise.

His ex didn't care about his trucking and never called unless there was an issue at home. He got used to not talking to anyone. He and I are both "cancer" people. I am a very loving, sensitive, strong woman. I understand the love and need a person has to do what they enjoy doing (driving on the road).

I have a problem with no communication. I don't want to come across as prying or not appearing to trust him. I just want to hear his voice. I miss him terribly and I know he misses me. I don't want there to be unnecessary issues which, after reading many postings, seem bound to happen.

Can you help me?

We both are at the age when having someone care about you means a lot. I also need to mention we live 1 1/2 hour apart from each other. I drive the distance to be with him.

I work full time and go to college. I'm hoping someday to have this man know I'm on his side and won't use him as a paycheck.

Thanks
Linda