OTR boyfriend cheated, later says he wants open relationship for sex.
A few weeks ago my boyfriend admitted to me that he was talking to his ex. That's a long complicated story, but I was left feeling incredibly hurt.
He never spent time with her physically while we were together, and he swears he only talked to her in an attempt to get money back that she owed him, but I know that the nature of their conversations often turned explicit.
He and I worked really hard to repair our relationship and to try to get to a healthy, trusting place again.
We spent a great few days together recently over Thanksgiving weekend, and when he left it was the hardest it's ever been to say goodbye to him. I felt like our relationship was stronger than ever, and for once I felt secure in the fact that I was his sole focus.
Then today he asked for an open relationship, and I've gone back to feeling like nothing I do is enough for this man. When we're physically together we have a dream relationship. When he's on the road, it feels like there's always something causing tension between us!
Now, it's the fact that he says he needs an open relationship because he's too sexually frustrated when we're not together.
Maybe I'm young and dumb, a 21 year old student who has already given him more chances than he deserves, but most of the time he makes me so happy! When he said he needs an open relationship I was hurt.
Are there any women out here who can give me some advice? Should I give him the benefit of the doubt and acknowledge that he must be lonely on the road?
I think it's completely fair for me to expect an exclusive, monogamous relationship since that is what we agreed to. Plus, how am I supposed to trust him with other girls if he cheated on me before??
Do guys really NEED sex the way they say they do? Feeling hurt and confused. Any words of wisdom greatly appreciated!
Thank you, ladies <3