New Found Appreciation For the Relationship I Have

by Lucy

I am married to a OTR trucker. I have two children from a previous relationship. The past couple of weeks I have had some real separation issues. I have been so emotional and lonely.

I am struggling with telling him how I am really doing, because I don't want him to worry. He works so hard, and unloads his trailers, too.

I started to read these threads looking for support and encouragement. I found some, sprinkled in here and there.

Most of what I found, however, was shocking admissions from suspicious, promiscuous, and straight up toxic wives/step-mothers/girlfriends.

The reasons I struggle have everything to do with the love that I have for my partner and the loneliness and overwhelmed feelings I have when he is away.

Its difficult and disappointing sometimes. I will be so excited and anxious for his return, only to watch him completely collapse from exhaustion and sleep his home time away. Now, I can honestly say that we don't have it that bad. WE are faithful. WE are trusting.

Some of these things that you are posting in these threads have nothing to do with the trucking life, and everything to do with being with a bad partner in a bad relationship or (more likely) being an unsupportive, untrusting, uncompromising, "bad" partner yourself.

So I guess what I am saying is thank you. You have surprisingly led me to realize that I am a strong woman in a strong relationship built on trust, mutual respect, and clear communication.

I miss him, all the time. I get overwhelmed, I get depressed. Sometimes, I just cry for hours. But, you know what? I am lucky.

I am so blessed that this pain is from love, not fear, betrayal, or narcicissm - It is real. Love... And its worth it.

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Oct 16, 2017
I’m right there with you girl NEW
by: Jennifer

I’m newbie truckers wife as well. My husband just left for his first haul, it hasn’t even been 12 hours and I miss him. My husband and I are a team and I will be here to support him and encourage him anyway I can. I too was shocked at some of the things I read. Disgusted honestly. You have to give 100% in your marriage to get back 100%. Of course every couple argues, no one is perfect. All I know Is that I will be here faithful and keeping things going until my man comes home and he knows that too 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦😍

Sep 26, 2017
Focus On What You Have
by: Hervy

Great observation Lucy. Although you might not like what you're dealing with, the reality is lots of couple are dealing with something even more unpleasant.

Being grateful and appreciative definitely helps with perspective. As far as dealing with the lifestyle there is a page called impact on the marriage. Use the search bar on the homepage to find it quickest.

Links from that page might help you with ideas and thoughts. I would post a link but I'm on cell phone right now.

Ironically i just made a video called "Be Careful About What You Focus On". Be on the lookout for that video. Its along the libes of your realization and new perspective on the relationship. (In a way)

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