Need advice!!... My husband just started OTR trucking :(

by Texas.trucker.wife
(Dfw tx)

Hi everyone,
My husband and I actually just got married august 28th and he started his job 3 wks before we got married.

He was able to come home for 10 days for the wedding and then left out to Colorado for a minimum of 3 wks. He's never been an OTR driver, he's always done local frac work and this is killing me.

We are newly married and this is kinda less than ideal, but I love him and I'm trying to be supportive. But honestly I just wanna cry half the time knowing he won't be next to me when I fall asleep. He acts so happy, like he loves his new job and has met some cool truckers where he's on location, and i try to sound happy for him, but in my head I just think, " well, at least one of us is happy and having a good time".

I'm trying to stay positive but it's really hard when he acts like he doesn't really miss me like I miss him. I love him and I would never pick another man to spend my life with but is this normal? I mean does Any one else's husbands stay gone for 3 wks or more at a time and actually like their job so much.

I know I may sound selfish but it's only cause I miss that man like crazy. And also how often does anyone else talk to their husband during the day, I don't want to seem overly clingy, but since he's not here I like talking to him since that's about as good as it gets.

Sorry I know this is a lot, but I feel like I'm going crazy !!

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Sep 20, 2011
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i feel your pain
by: Shawna Marie

my husband and i have only been married for 4 months. i hate it when he's gone. i cry every time he leaves. normally he's only out for a week at a time, but it's still very hard. i know there's not much to ease the pain, but things that help us are talking all day long (i think we must talk at least 15 times a day) we also pray together every night over the phone and for him i leave him notes hidden in his things (ie his clothes, his snacks, etc) and when he is home we spend almost every moment together.
be honest and open with your husband, let him know you miss him and it's hard on you. i cry over the phone at times to mine and it does help to let it out. plus, it's good to let them know we miss them.

*sending hugs to you*

Sep 15, 2011
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if you need to
by: L



If you ever need to talk you can email me direct,,, taylor4here@aol.com,, we all need an out let and someone who now how it feels,,

I'm here

Thanks,,,,,L

Sep 15, 2011
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Thanks! Everyone
by: Texas.trucker.wife

I appreciate all the comments. I guess i feel a little better knowing other families are going thru the same thing. I just talked to him this morning and he got his pay stub from all his work he did in texas before we went to Colorado, and he actually made more here, but he says he wants to try the CO runs for about a month and see how that goes. To me it just feels like he doesnt want to come home. Now i realize i may be over-thinking things, but sometimes he acts like a different man while he is OTR. Not as happy and we dont have the type of converstaions and joking around like when hes here. He is actually born and raised in CO and has been in TX for about 6 yrs now, so i know he is enjoying his time up there, but it kinda hurts feeling like im gonna loose him to the road. Someimes i feel like he is choosing his job before our marraige. I also work, as an insurance broker from home and just started making a decent paycheck each week, so he might see that he wouldnt have to do OTR, but idk if that would change his mind. Honestly im scared that this wont build our marriage, but slowly make it fall apart. But I will keep my head up and just pray for the best. Hopefully he remembers he has a wife here that loves him.

Sep 15, 2011
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Hang in there
by: Anonymous

Hey,it is good he likes that type of time out. Many don't and maybe once he gets the time in under his belt he will be able to make a move to a company that may not keep him gone so long and that will come with his experience. I do think you need to work with him and if you get a vacation from what you might do, try to go with him if you are allowed by his company. There are some characters out there! Tell him what you need too, he loves you too! He does miss you. Many strong guys will do whatever it takes to keep their family what they feel as safe and let's face it, to have a job in this day and age is a good thing! Stay positive. He will be home soon and he does love you!

Sep 15, 2011
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lonely
by: L



I know how you feel and i'm newly married to my trucker husband to almost a year but been together for 5yrs. I love him with all my heart but i hate his job, yes it's a job but i don't like it... It's one of the hardest things i've had to deal with and i try so hard to support him but it is very hard... He's gone anywhere from 2 weeks to 2 months to me it's not a marriage but more like just somewhere he comes to get a good meal and wash his clothes and clean his truck. I get scared sometimes to think what really happens out there but i try to trust him and now that he has just leased his own truck not sure how's that's going to work either.. You'll do fine as long as you can talk about how you feel and let him know you do love him. I wish you the best and we here have to help each other through this.

Thanks.L

Sep 15, 2011
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loves his job
by: Anonymous

Mine has been gone for 49 days :( but Ive told him how I feel and after about 4 weeks he was more then ready to come home it takes a very special person to love and stay with a trucker but its something they love and live for..He just seems really happy an loves his job he misses you Im sure but they see it as they will be home soon and know we will wait for them :) keep your head up

Sep 15, 2011
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not happy
by: American Trucker

I think you need to let him know how you feel exactly.

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