My Wonderful, Crazy Life as a truckers soulmate
by Martha O'Brien
Truth be told....most truckers are just awesome. I have the best one though!! Four years ago my life was changed, & for the better. I had met & been talking to a wonderful guy. A couple of months later we decided to meet up. I was in shock that I was in love the moment he walked in.
I had a 15 year old daughter then, & she had been done wrong by her sperm donor, & she just knew right away that she wanted him to be her daddy. It really does take a special kind of woman, & very strong woman to truly love & understand a truck driver.
I was one that felt like, well maybe he really doesn't want to be with me...why am I in love with a man that's always gone??? I cried, I screamed but I could not walk away from him & our life...I was working when we met, & about a year after we moved in together, I was headed out on the truck with him. Now I wouldn't trade him for a million dollars. He has had to turn around & be strong for me as well.
I've been through chemo twice, was diagnosed with Lupus erythematosus last year, & had a left sided stroke last month. He has been awesome through it all. Most relationships are give & take 50/50 but sometimes you might think that he's taking more & giving less...
BUT if you really love & trust him...then you will realize that he doesn't want to be gone that long, but he's making money for the family!! Speaking of trust, it is a DEFINITE must!!!
If you can't trust him, then he's probably not your soul mate...one thing though that I do ask of my husband is that if he ever team drives or decides to train again that he not have a woman in there either way. Because two people in such a tight space, something is bound to happen. He 100% agreed!!
Plus, when they are gone...they need to be able to trust us as well...& you have a good trucker that loves you, cares about you, & doesn't cheat, & you do him wrong then shame on you...Sometimes they need to unload about their day & so do you...what my trucker & I do is gripe to each other, but not at each other...in four years, we have never had one fight.
It is a wild ride being a Trucker's wife, but it can be done!!!