My husband is an OTR driver need advice

by Mary
(Norcross GA)


My husband just started truck driving 2 months ago I'm really going through it with him gone I recently lost my job that supported us trough his trucking school and orientation and I feel terrible to depend on him whenever I need something...


So what I need advice is he has been with a female trainer for the last 6 weeks I'm not happy with that I support him and always try my best to not show my true feelings to him because I know they need support dar from home but Im a little jealous I've always trust him but my instincts kicked just recently the past week he's been traveling to California a lot and there's a 3 hour difference from where I live, I'm from Georgia to be exact he calls at random hours when I'm asleep and sometimes I dont hear the phone ring but most of the time I answer the phone I have a 3 year old at home and I try to respect my sleeping schedule well he has started making up arguments over the phone saying that I have people over my house when I have no family or friends here I don't bring anyone to my home period. So he makes up arguments then doesn't answer his phone after I text him all day call him send him pictures and my messages go unnoticed he responds when he wants and on his off time he doesn't call me either him and his trainer treat each other weirdly they invite each other to eat she pays for his showers and
they are always talking about sexual stuff and laughing about it while I'm on the phone with him like they joke about him being handsome and her having a fuck buddy weird shit like that..well the lack of communication is starting to get to me and the fact that he's been picking up arguments is raising a red flag got me thinking he's blaming me of doing something that he's doing himself because I sure as hell ain't I take my marriage very seriously... and today I called him and he said I bother him...mind you we hardly speak and he calls when I'm sleeping to make up arguments.. right now he is in Cali on his 34 hour reset and he dared say I bother him because I was speaking to him about our daughter... I'm lost here feeling crazy for thinking he might be cheating on me with his trainer but she is everywhere even when we talk she interrupts the phone calls I'm trying to save my marriage as I've been with my husband for 7 yrs and we have a beautiful daughter together I need advice I'm lost I'm sad and I feel like my marriage is getting tossed In the trash by him... To add to everything he sends me money late sometimes leaving me and my daughter hungry for days because he says there's no way he can send the money and he stops frequently and we don't have a bank account he doesn't want a bank account neither allow me to see how much Money he makes..please help me thanks so much

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Oct 09, 2018
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Trucking wives and girlfriends. NEW
by: Fuzzy Butkus.

I Started driving fa 1978.There wasn’t

Sep 17, 2018
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by: Anonymous

Hi, first off I think you need to stop worrying about him and worry more about you and your Daughter. This article is just the article I was looking for and it is exactly what I thought would happen once I start driving, so thanking you for posting it. I am getting ready to start driving school for knight and these are the things I was worried about it takes both of you to work together and understand each others wants and needs, I'm sure its hard for him as well as you trust is the main thing here for what your saying he may or may not be doing something wrong. The advice I have is to do you and take care of your daughter if he wants his marriage he will straighten up or he will loose you and his daughter. I don't know about him but those are the thing that have me questioning driving in the first place. I have four kids youngest 12 but he lives with his mom my others are 17 to 23 they are all grown and living in the same town together so its not that bad but I still feel bad having to be away from them for days. the women I was with is so jealous and I haven't even started driving yet but im a respectful dude and I have to do what makes me happy and I hope she trust me enough to be together if not then I stay alone but nice talking to you hope this helped a little bit.

Nov 05, 2017
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by: Anonymous

Don't contact him at all. Let him contact you first, then act as if everything is just OK.
If you do this, he will start to think and want to get home and see why you're now happy and content.

Nov 04, 2017
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by: Anonymous

Most companies don't match married men with single women and vice versa.Usually it's 3 to 6 weeks training unless they're running team. My advice to you is to concentrate on yourself and your daughter,find another job so your focus can shift to what's important at hand. WhatEVER he's doing will catch up with him. Get yourself together! Don't argue with him because that's boosting his ego. Boost yours!

Nov 04, 2017
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by: Anonymous

Most companies don't match married men with single women and vice versa.Usually it's 3 to 6 weeks training unless they're running team. My advice to you is to concentrate on yourself and your daughter,find another job so your focus can shift to what's important at hand. WhatEVER he's doing will catch up with him. Get yourself together! Don't argue with him because that's boosting his ego. Boost yours!

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