marriage slowly disinegrating - advice welcomed
It is a plain FACT that one's marriage and relationship being involved with a trucker will slowly decline as time goes by.
The mere fact is that with physical separation comes emotional separation. The longer one is with a trucker, the more time it will wear on that relationship.
My husband has been a truck driver for 3 and 1/2 years and it only gets worse. So women, listen up. I've come to the point where I feel like I have no feelings for him and I don't even care to talk to him on the phone any longer.
It's like I dread to talk to him on the phone. When we do talk, I am continually having to think of "positive" things to say to divert the fact that we're separated, we're not together and I miss him like crazy.
Every time I try to bring up this issue, my husband says I don't have faith in God. Plus the fact that my husband is one of those men who thinks cause he's the man, I can't say nothing and I have to be completely silent when he talks.
He yells at me, hangs up the phone on me, and is verbally abusive to me. I tell my husband that being married to a trucker is WORSE than being a military wife. At least someone in the military gets home time for 1-2 years before he/she deploys again. Trucking is WORSE!
Trucking is ALL THE TIME, no 2-week vacation, no summer off, ALL THE TIME. And the wife is left to raise the kids practically on her own all but for a few phone calls of complaining to her husband on how bad the kids have been.
What really irritates me is my husband said the only reason he went into trucking was so our family could move out of the big city. He PROMISED me that he would start applying for a local job as soon as we moved.
Well, he hasn't done any of it. We've moved....over a year ago...and he's STILL trucking and just announced to me recently that he will not do any other job but a driving job.
I feel misled and deceived. It would have been different if my husband was already a trucker when I married him and I would've came into the marriage knowing what lifestyle we'd lead.
I had no idea I'd be alone 85% of the time with my husband gone. I AM grateful that my husband has a job. Maybe I'm having a bad day?
Any advice for me ladies?