Long Haul OTR Trucking & Marriage Do Not Go Together
I have a husband that has only been a driver for 5 months now. Do you notice that I did not describe myself as a trucker's wife. I have good reason.
I will not let my husband's job title define me! Well my hub was calling me several times a day when he was with his trainer for 30 days. He passed his final test & they gave him a truck & they gave him a team driver which has left my hub twice.
The first time the team driver left, the company took the team driver back & this time they gave my hub another team driver which my hub does not care for.
Well the few times my hub was home, it was honeymoon time all over again & I have done nothing to provoke him to do what I am about to mention next. But I now have our phone bill sent electronically & the bill now shows all phone #s made & received on both phones.
Well I noticed that there were a heck of a lot of calls on my hub's phone that said the calls were incoming & the phone # listed was unavailable & these calls were several times a day, almost a dozen a day & the most minutes were 85 minutes.
Now he has never spent that long on the phone to me or to my daughter. And some of these calls came after my hub told me he was going to bed & he was tired.
I tried to call him about these calls & I got his voicemail so I text him & I told him what the bill stated & I sure got a slap in the face the next morning when he text me back & said he was going to call the phone carrier & see if he can get me blocked from me seeing who he is calling!
Now I am his wife & he is going to say that. So I in the meantime wrote back & told him he feels that way, then he doesn't need to know what we are doing back here at home.
I don't care what other wives might say or other truckers but I have been told this & if I had a dime for everyone that told me this, I could buy a mansion but I was told EVERY 18 WHEELER OTR TRUCK DRIVER CHEATS ON HIS GIRLFRIEND OR WIFE!
And my aunt who is a bartender at a bar in a restaurant has told me that my hub sounds like the type of guy that would get some extracurricular activity & when he comes home, expect me to me that loving wonderful wife in the bedroom. WRONG!
The last time my hub was home he told me he had no money on him & that he needs at least $1,000.00 to cover him for expenses on the road for food since he will be away for 6 or more weeks.
When he is home, I do his laundry, make sure his truck is filled up, make him hot home cooked meals & I give him my undivided attention & I am attentive to him. Well when I went to pick up his pants for laundry, his wallet fell out & what fell out was $450.00, all in 9 $50.00 bills.
I asked him I thought you said you had no money & he said oh this is what I have left from the last time. Now there was lie #1.
I am very hurt & angry over this statement about calling the phone carrier to get me blocked. Well he is hiding something. And then he says if I would have called him, he could have told me who he was calling.
I was calling & all I got was his voicemail & I also asked him to call me, which he did not. Also I have removed my rings & when people ask me my marital status I say separated, which wives & truck drivers are when they are OTR.
My daughter also has taken it upon herself to remove our wedding picture off the wall & she put the picture through the shredder & she has told me I no longer need that picture. And I never wanted my hub to get an OTR position but due to the economy losing 2 jobs previously, this was the only job that was calling him for employment.
The reason I did not want him to get this job is from comments I have been hearing - truck driver is a 11 letter word but so is being a scant chaser, whore chaser a 11 letter word also & I thought we had a good marriage before he did this.
Well I now have woken up & smelled the coffee & NO MORE HOME FIRES BURNING FOR HIM WHEN HE COMES HOME NEXT TIME! I ran into a woman that her hub used to do this for 30 years & she told me it is an addiction for them to be an OTR driver.
Once they get a taste of it, they don't want to come home. She told me there was one time her hub was away from home 16 years!
That is why there is a 17 year difference between her son & daughter. I said WOW to be away 16 years! Crazy! I was thinking of my daughter & I leaving but my aunt told me no to stay & make his life a living hell when he is home!
My daughter will have her friends over & party when he will need sleep before he hits the road & my aunt told me that when he is home for only what 2 days the most, to eat a lot of gassy foods & to put my hair up in those big aluminum rollers, do not apply makeup, etc.
Both my daughter & I are starting to hate him instead of loving him & I no longer ask him what state he is in because when I do ask him all I get is I DON'T KNOW.
Wait a minute, you are driving & you don't know what state you are in. Hmmm, sounds like a few tacos short of a taco platter or the lights are on & no one is home. And when my daughter & I went to bed for the night, we turned off our phones.
I told her that if the doorbell rings or there is a knock on the door, not to answer the door because like my daughter said, yeah we don't want to know or hear if anything has happened to him & both my daughter & I went to bed comfortably & slept well.
Well my daughter slept well. I didn't, knowing that my hub betrayed me & would expect me to be that loving wife when he would come home next knowing damn well what he did to me! Yes I am venting right now & I hope he too stays away for 16 years!