I think he is cheating on me. What do I do?

by Suzie
(Canada)

I'm involved with a man who's a long haul truck driver and most of the time we see each other every weekend.

Sometimes the truck breaks down and sometimes it's 2-3 weeks depending on the breakdown. We always had sex every week when he came home.

Now he ask me to leave him alone, says he's tired and now only wants to have sex with me once a month sometimes every 2 weeks or 3 weeks.

We have only been together less than two years. What am I suppose to think? To add to it I am not allowed to instigate sex it is only on his terms?

I have asked him if he wanted to be single? He said no and why?

I asked him if he's getting his needs met elsewhere and he gets defensive and mad. Then he accuses me of cheating which I am not. I am totally loyal.

Now I'm not allowed to even ask that question because he said if I ask that again he's going to go and cheat.

I love this man but this is totally unacceptable in my book.

Not too long ago he picked up a hitchhiker and brought him home when I was away.

The hitchhiker was gone the next day when I arrived and of course my truck driving man did not want to be intimate with me that weekend before he went on the road.

What am I suppose to think?

Other than he is cheating on me but I have no proof.

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Jul 26, 2018
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Get Out While You're Young
by: Anonymous

Hope your smarter than me as I put up with my trucking husband cheating on me for over 40 years, 12 while he drove truck long distance.

Started out being in the party row with lot lizards then he graduated to escorts. He gave me STD after STD all those years and like a fool I buried my head in the sand.

Wish I had of left years ago because now it's too late because of finances. Get out while your young and can start a new life.

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Tell Him Why You Feel the Way You Feel
by: Hervy

Let him know why you feel like things are different between you. Give him specific examples of what has changed.

Tell him you want to get counseling to improve the relationship.

If you have specific examples and he doesn't want to get counseling, I suggest you still go and talk to a counselor yourself.

Doesn't have to be paid. Every church should have someone that is qualified is not by trade then by experience.

If no church find an older couple that's been together for a long time and get advice.

Also, this download could help you with a conversation. Hopefully, he wants to make things better.

Improving long distance relationships

(Long story short, you should take about what each of you require in the relationship to feel loved. You ask him first, then it's your turn to share.)


Best of luck

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