Don't know who to turn to for answers about this relationship
My husband has been doing trucking now for 6 months. I am a supportive loving wife that when he was home I would do everything for him & he had no need to look elsewhere.
Now I am not saying he is doing it but I just had a situation that makes me question his fidelity. The first month he was with his trainer & then took a final test & passed & the company gave him his own truck & a team driver which the fleet manager had them go from coast to coast which my husband wanted because he said that is where the money is & he did go into trucking due to 2 failed career moves & due to the economy.
Well his first team driver left him twice because it was a kid & he wanted to be home on the weekends to party with his buddies. The second & final time the kid left my husband, my husband went solo because the fleet manager had no one to give him till about a month later & they gave him this team driver.
Last month my husband calls me & tells me he has very severe chills & he can't get warm enough & the second night he slept he woke up in a very bad sweat from head to toe. Well his team driver told him to drink water & cranberry juice because his buddy had a prostate problem. Then my husband had blood in his urine.
Well I told him he needed to see a doctor. A few days pass & my husband told me his symptoms went away. Then a week later he tells me the symptoms came back with a vengeance. He then went to the local ER at a hospital in a city he was in.
I was alarmed when he called me & said the doc asked him his medical history & my husband told the doc he had no medical conditions well what alarmed me was the doc's next question & that was he asked my husband hey are you out there having unprotected sex & my husband told the doc no.
Well they gave my husband medication for it & told him when he gets home he needs to see a urologist but another thing I found odd was when my husband got out of the ER & went back on the truck, his team driver asked him if he could put up with him till Thanksgiving & then after that they are parting ways.
I asked my husband why did he say that & he said he never asked his team driver why. All my husband said was F**K him! I don't need him.
Well the team driver may know something I don't know & I will never know. I was just at my family doctor's office for a sinus infection & I got to see the PA (physician assistant) & I asked him if a UTI & prostatitis would give you severe chills & he said no.
And he told me that if my husband came there to get treated they would only give him an antibiotic for a UTI & they would not test him for STD because he is married. They usually test single young guys for that & I told the PA infidelity comes in all ages & all occupations!
Now I am not saying my husband strayed but he is not knowledgeable in medical stuff & diseases. Even though he told me he would never touch anyone out there because you don't know what they have but on the other hand even if my husband did do a 1 night stand even with a clean looking waitress, he would never tell me because I told him to stop in the gift shop at a truck stop & get those signs that you can put in the window with a picture of a lizard with a line through it & my husband tells me he never found those & he also told me he has been in a lot of truck stops & has not found lot lizards because he was not looking for them.
Now when he does come home I am afraid to get intimate with him even if he's cured of any infection because I will feel betrayed.
I don't have any proof but at the same time my husband would never tell me he's sorry & he did have a 1 night stand, but he's cured & he learned his lesson & he would never do it again.
I told the PA I am aware of the diseases out there that even if I was single, I would be much more happy to read my Kindle at night than be with a strange guy that I just met because you can't get a disease from the Kindle!
But if there are wives or girlfriends of truckers out there that has had the same situation, I sure would love to hear your comments!