Another Ex Wife of a truck driver
Married the man of every woman's dreams 16 years ago, and by the way, he had been out of trucking for years at the time we met.
We blended our families and with six kids at home, we made the decision for me to become a stay at home mom and I helped to fulfill his dream of becoming and O/O.
At that point, I let my medical career go in support of him and our family. As the kids grew up and began leaving home, I dreamt of us growing old together.
He had such a beautiful Christian spirit! Sadly, as the years have gone by, the nature of this industry, ie...being alone, losing the ability to deal with everyday life beyond traffic and log books (and trust me, I've always commended him for the job he does), and basically forgetting how to converse rather than talking "at" me, has brought us to him filing for divorce.
With 7 grown children and 14 grandchildren, there's always something going on in the family..good, bad, and sometimes ugly. He refuses to face those realities in life and escapes in the truck.
He says he just wants peace, and although I have spared him from the occasional drama that all families experience, he talks to the kids, but won't talk to me. When he is home, he's not "present" and I have been supportive and lonely for far too long.
He told me several years ago that the man I married is gone and is never coming back. I have found some answers regarding this personality change in learning about "Crazy Making Behavior" and "Gaslighting". Passive aggressive/borderline narcissitic behavior and trucking don't mix!
I truly believe that if he had not gone back into trucking and would have lived a more "normal" daily routine with me as the kids grew up, we wouldn't be divorcing now.
His ability to cope with life beyond trucking has become extinct, and I can't deal with the crazy making anymore. I will always be in love with the man I married.
This man, however, is now a stranger. I'd like to express my gratitude for this site as I'm a newcomer...and so appreciate the prayers!
My soon to be ex clearly isn't at peace with his decision, and I believe is battling his own demons right now, so I will continue to ask for prayers!
Thank you again as I appreciate having a place of support!