Whats your advice about these serious financial issues

OK ladies. Been with my trucker now for two years. Not married, not engaged.I am raising his 2 children and my son while going to school and working. This, I don't mind. BUT.....

He continually finds himself in financial difficulty for truck repairs and child support for his two children that reside with his ex.

He has misrepresented himself when he told me he paid bills; later telling me that he gambled it away. Now he is in a mad panic due to child maintenance issues and needs over 10 grand in the next 7 days or he will lose his license.

He has asked me to get my parents involved by co-signing a loan for him. I couldn't possibly do that. They have helped me so much already through my divorce after a 20 year marriage. And he has proven time and time again that he has a gambling problem.

I have done everything I can to help including cashing in my RRSPs for truck repairs. I don't know whether to save myself and my son and run.... or stick around to see what happens.

He has told me different stories constantly. I love his kids and feel bad for them but have gone through some pretty bad stuff with my ex. and dont want to repeat it.

I am trying to protect my credit rating so I can move forward in the future, he seems to think that I will go and magically make the money appear before the end of the week.

I have already purchased a large SUV in my name to cart the kids around in and am stuck with a $15000 car loan after not having a car loan for many years ( I paid off my car ).

Has anyone else out there dealt with similar issues? If so... what is your advice and what was the outcome of your situation?

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Sep 30, 2013
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Good indeed NEW
by: Anonymous

good for you! Stress free wow you are lucky! Count your blessings and be grateful you made a wise choice! God Bless you..:)

Sep 30, 2013
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by: Anonymous

Well, I listened to you folks and gave it a lot of thought. I decided to end it. I still love the guy but could not deal with everything he kept throwing at me. His kids are now safely residing with their mother, his truck was repo'd after he could not make the payments due to bad financial decisions and he is driving a company truck. We still speak to one another; he knows I still care for him. He understands that he has to get his life together if we are ever to be a couple again. My life is now calm and almost stress free. I had no idea how the stress was affecting me until I stepped away from the madness. Thank you for your support and knowledge on the subject. Best wishes to you all

Jul 16, 2013
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by: Mary

Please think of your child first, you haven't invested too much time in this so don't waste your life cleaning up after him. This could be a dangerous situation because people do desperate things when they need money and he will never change.

Mar 26, 2013
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run dont walk run away NEW
by: Anonymous

As the title states

Mar 26, 2013
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by: Anonymous

If you don't already know gambling is an addiction, which means it is just like being an alcoholic or even worse a drug addict, a gambling addiction is worse...the suicide rate is higher.

I leave near a very small casino in CA. Just this last year a man was ran over and killed coming out of the casino door, and into the parking lot by 2 assailants who wanted to take his money for a gambling debt he owed these 2 guys. Next, a woman was found in the trunk of a car dead, killed by her husband who was in the casino gambling, then left her body in the parking lot...

If this isn't enough information for someone to take their kid and run before this person hits rock bottom and takes all they have, then I guess they can sit around and wait for it to happen..

It has only been 2 years that is nothing compared to a lifetime of worry and torture and possibly you and your son being abused...these individuals end up violent behind this particular addiction...

Mar 26, 2013
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by: Anonymous

dear Miss wanting advice...
I have been through the gambling issues. in the same type of situation if you'd like to talk you can email me at (canchaserup2013@hotmail.com email me there and I'll give you my phone number and we can talk about this privately.... then you can make your own mind up and go from there.
Hope to hear from you soon.
Shel

Mar 26, 2013
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by: Anonymous

dear Miss wanting advice...
I have been through the gambling issues. in the same type of situation if you'd like to talk you can email me at (canchaserup2013@hotmail.com email me there and I'll give you my phone number and we can talk about this privately.... then you can make your own mind up and go from there.
Hope to hear from you soon.
Shel

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