What Ive Learned Here as a Girlfriend.
I found this site when i was about six weeks into falling for my trucker.. :)
We are now 6 months into it. I could go on and on and on about how wonderful i think he is..but what i really want to say is that the most important thing i have learned here is communication.
Im no young girl. Im 45 and have two grown children. He is no little boy either.
The only way that this is working is the fact that we talk. Not only about what he does and hauls, not just about current events or easy things.
We talk about us. our hopes for this and our needs for this to work.
His job took two relationships from him. You know what though? im not a trucker and ive lost two relationships too.
This one is different. We are both willing to have those tough talks. We both are stepping up and saying, i would feel better if... It would be great if you... What do you need from me to know that i can be devoted to this?
Then we actually listen to the answers and put them into practice.
We live in different parts of the country. Not too too far away but still its far enough.
As a girlfriend, not a wife, i dont have that benefit of weekends home with him. We grab the time we can together, i ride with him when it is able to happen. I also get to ride with him while we are on the phone, it seems odd to some but really, its almost as if im there with him.
Ive never met a more romantic, caring and open man. The road warriors we love need to know that they have a solid thing, a devoted woman, someone they can talk with and share with. Someone out there who loves them.
The positives about this, the biggest thing is that we know that we are connected by more than sex. We truly enjoy each others personalities. We have spent more time on the phone than in each others presence. When we do see each other, fireworks :)
In some ways i think that makes us luckier than 'normal' couples. In some ways we are behind in our growth as a couple but for us, right now, it works.
As a grown woman, as a strong woman, as an independent woman, i feel lucky to have this relationship in my life.