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Apr 30, 2011
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Leave now
by: Anonymous

Leave now! The loneliness never ends.

Apr 30, 2011
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Leave now
by: Anonymous

Leave now! The loneliness never ends.

Nov 12, 2010
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how to survive
by: PK

My husband has been a trucker for only about 2 yrs now. The adjustment has been difficult. In the beginning I did feel like what have I got myself into. Though now it seems normal in a strange way. Anyone with any coping strategies for keeping a marriage intact please reply.

Jan 22, 2010
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Hello Liz,
by: Angie

This will be a big adjustment for both of you. You will have to find a way to build a life outside of your husband. I know that may not be what you signed up for but it is better for your own peace of mind and personal growth.

It will not be good for you to sit around waiting for him to come home because you are never really going to know when that will be and it can change at a toss of a coin, he may call and say I could be home tomorrow and a an hour later tell you he will be gone for 2 weeks. You are not the trucking company's priority. I know that sounds harsh but if the wheels ain't turnin they aren't making money.

I have been a drivers wife for 21 yrs, I have had to raise our 5 children pretty much on my own. I have gone to school and got training in the medical field and did that for awhile but now I am a stay at home nanny/granny. I do daycare an keep my grandkids.

My husband is based in a different state than where I live so I see him maybe 7 to 10 days A MONTH. We talk on the phone all the time to stay in touch. He has a Po box so I send him a card sometimes just to say I love you. I handle all the bills, and make a lot of decisions on my own because he is not here and has to focus on his job.

You need to join a church or sewing group or get a bunch of ladies together at your house and do crafts or movie night, learn to relax and have fun with other people.

Be very patient and don't make him feel guilty for doing something that he feels is going to support you. He is doing this for your family. Jobs are hard to come by anymore and the trucking industry thankfully is still one of most useful and much needed industries.

Just always let him know how much you love him and appreciate him. You have to learn to buck up and not whine and cry. Try to find one person you can confide in, but don't expect alot of sympathy because most people won't understand why you even put up with "this life".

Hope this helps, and please join us for chat in the evenings if you have access to a computer.

God bless you, Angie

Jan 22, 2010
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by: Liz

To everyone especially Jimmy;

I had no idea that maybe his mentor may have a computer and maybe when he goes solo, we will get another computer so we can see each other by web cam.

Thanks.

They are telling my husband since Swift has a high volume of new drivers, he may be able to come home for a day or two until they get him coded. swift will not pay for his hotel accommodations while he waits for his mentor. And if he goes out tomorrow night after his last training course for flatbed, then I will be even writing you a lot just to learn how to survive the stress without him for his 42 days on the road.

He says Swift has policies where if the road conditions are shitty, they do not even drive. So if you do not mind Jimmy I am giving out my cell number
*I removed your number. Do NOT post your personal number on the web like that/we can't control who sees it, get's it, and abuses it, thanks* I can use all the support possible until he has experience to drive here in Indiana where we live and get a dedicated route.

I have heard that since he has time under his belt, he can get a route to be home on nights and weekends if he chooses and from talking to him, that sounds like this is what he would like to do. Even JET has told him once he gets 6 months or more experience, he can even drive for them and be home at night or weekends. Like I said have no clue how to handle this new way of life, but needs lots of support.

Thank you to all, I will keep in contact.

Jan 21, 2010
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I am a trucker's wife too.
by: Anonymous

truckers wives chat

You are going to need a support group and we are here for you. We are wives and loved ones of truckers. Join us in the eves 6pm central time. Your life as you know it is about to undergo a complete over haul Sweetie.

My name is Angie, and I look forward to meeting you in chat!. Link above...

Jan 21, 2010
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Liz wants hubby close by.
by: Jimmy

Liz, just bear with it for awhile and see how it works. If he is on line while on the road and has webcam and you too, check out "skype.com", free service and un-limited skype to skype. Jimmy

Jan 21, 2010
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Response to comments
by: Liz

Hi everyone this is Liz;

Not sure what to think yet. Alot to absorb and a lot going thru my mind. Not quite sure if I can live with the idea of him being gone all the time. The company he is working for is telling him he may get a dedicated route if he asks for it but at the same time my husband tells me he will go with whatever flows.

I asked him last night before he went to bed to ask for a dedicated route. That way he can be home on weekends. Sometime today he should get coded in for his mentor and I hope that they let me see him before he takes off. Like I said not sure how to take this in especially knowing he will be gone alot. I really need to think about how to re-act to this new way of life but at the same time not sure if this is the life for me.

I will continue to listen to suggestions and thank you to all who has commented.

Jan 21, 2010
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She wants the truth.
by: Jimmy

Hi, Liz, welcome aboard. Your hubby will stay put until a mentor (trainer) is available. It's highly unlikely the company will bus him anywhere. Forget about home time while he's training.

The likelihood of his mentor living in your area isn't going to happen. You can probably ride with him after he is solo. Remember, Swift is in the transportation business, not the babysitting business. Jimmy

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