Unreliable & undependable
I had a situation come my way & I need some advice from a trucker's wife or wives or girlfriends.
I needed a procedure at a hospital which required anesthesia. My husband was well aware of it & told his fleet manager that he needed to be home to take me there since I couldn't drive home when the procedure was done.
Now I got a phone call from my husband telling me that a customer had cancelled a load at the last minute & him & his team driver were stuck & wouldn't get another load out of there till 2 days later & he would be home supposedly the afternoon of my procedure which left me to have the hospital driver pick me up & bring me home.
Well I have had several people tell me to leave his a** & 1 was my own Mother. My Mother watches my 2 children which are ages 3 & 5 & my Mom does not drive & when she found out I had to have a stranger drive me, she was livid..
Now my husband has had 2 procedures & I have taken off from work to bring him there & bring him home. My boss was also livid about it who happens to be divorced & due to a ugly divorce hates men with a passion & she has told me he does not love me & my best friend has also said the same thing.
Now all these people are not truck drivers or related to them so they have no idea of how it works out there on the road. Even at the hospital when I said I was here alone & no one would be at my bedside when I woke up & I explained the reason, well the receptionist said to me oh girl I would dump him big time.
Everyone has said to me that it is funny that when my husband was due his procedures, no customer or customers have cancelled their loads, we think he just didn't want to sit in the waiting area for me to get done.
So in the meantime I have told my husband that now I hope you are aware that the next time you need assistance for your procedures, you better call for transportation or a cab & he acted like a whiny crybaby & said oh screw it I will die before I have someone else take me & I said whatever floats your boat.
Now this incident was not the main reason for my Mother telling me to leave him, it was just the straw that broke the camel's back but my Mother reminds me that my Father before he passed away & he found out that my husband was thinking of becoming a truck driver, my Father said for me to leave him because I would be dealing with a train wreck & I told my Father no.
Well since my husband has been one now for a year & he became one only after he got fired from his previous job for telling his boss where to go & he had a friend tell him become a trucker & they make a boatload of money.
Well now when there is 2 paychecks coming in, the finances should be 50/50, well 4 times in a year I alone had to shell out for the bills due to his "peanuts" paycheck as my Mother puts it.
He has been broken down & lying idle for 10 days at a time, 34 hour resets, etc.& being an employee gets paid pennies for these loads.
Also he is picking up truckers language by dropping the F bomb a lot especially in front of the kids. He would say oh what the F**K & my Mother heard him & yelled at him & he has said oh you guys have to realize that this is the way us truckers talk & my Mother has reminded him you are home around your family & not on the truck.
Also I have been told by everyone that since my husband can't meet my needs & wants as in happy wife equals happy life, for me not to make his life happy since he is making me unhappy which includes him getting nothing while at home & also with the "peanuts" paycheck that I have to contribute 100% of the time to pay the bills, can't forget the boatload of money these guys need on the road & I have noticed that since I have told him I can't take off work & be there for him when he needs me to accommodate him because I can't afford to miss work, his phone calls have become less & less.
This is where I have been told there is no way he can love me or his family. We are not talking about him missing a birthday or an anniversary but me needing a medical procedure. Have there been women out there that has run into the same situation where your spouse or boyfriend has said they would be home & you women had to resort for a stranger from the hospital to pick you up & drop you off.
Right now I am confused as to what to do meaning was it a situation beyond my husband's control or is it something that he could have controlled. As I said previously when he had procedures he never had the customer cancel but when my procedure had to be done, supposedly a customer cancelled the load.
I have told my best friend & boss about this site & they have read several stories & they both said to me is this site for real & are these people for real & I said yep, it's all real.
Well since my boss is a man hater, she has said oh this is horsecrap for you girls to doll all up for when they come home by putting on makeup & sexy outfits.
My boss's brother is a U.S. Marine that has just came back from Iraq & she said her sister-in-law upon meeting her brother home from Iraq, didn't have makeup on & a sexy outfit. She had on blue jeans, sneakers & a hoodie & her hair pulled back in a pony tail.
So am I foolish for loving my husband or take my Mother's & others advice to leave him because they are not experienced in the truck driving business. Any advice would be helpful.
Oh by the way my kids do not miss their Father while he is away & when he is home they are not all over him, maybe because he does not pay attention to them but while he is home, all he wants to do is keep me up all night & not getting no sleep so he can get laid!