Unfamiliar with Trucker lifestyle

by Jacki
(Queensland Australia)

Hi everyone, I've just recently met a really nice guy...but, he's a trucker, and is away on the road for weeks on end.

I do realise he is doing it for the sake of a job, and to provide an income in order to survive. So, it's going to sound very selfish of me to say this, BUT, I feel I wouldn't be able to cope with him being away for such long periods.

Being in my late 50's, I am quite happy/ capable of living alone, but I WANT/ ENJOY his company. So, I have come here to read, and to try and understand how to cope with being the partner of a trucker.

I do love and care about him, so don't want to leave him, just because of his job. That would be so unfair/ selfish, I would feel guilty.

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May 27, 2013
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by: Anonymous

My husband was already a truck driver when we started dating. It was hard not to see him for weeks at the time but we talked every day and night(I remember he had to change phone plans because he had a $900.00 phone bill one month. It sounds strange but I believe that is the reason we got to know each other so well because we had to carry on a conversation instead of seeing each other. We will soon be married for 10 yrs. and have 4 children. I am not saying that it is always easy you have to have trust and since you are not together that much lots of communication. One plus I have found is we do not waste the time we have together with petty arguments, our time together is to precious for that. So in a way his job has actually made our marriage stronger. So there is a good and a bad side to our men's chosen profession. For example always plan on something breaking as soon as he pulls out of the driveway!
May 07, 2013
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by: Anonymous

Advice I can't give but I'm feeling so much because I met this trucker who just recently divorced. I want to tell him to deal with his emotions and that I will be there for him. I really like him because we seem to compliment each other when we are together but there is not enough time to really get to know him. He works so hard for everyone else and I don't think they appreciate it. He has kids and his ex wife that he feels he need to give them everything (guilt I believe). It's just so much and I don't know what to do because I really like him.
Mar 30, 2013
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by: Jacki

We have had a good chat, and i have decided that i am going to be his travel buddy. I can't share the driving, unfortunately, but will do all i can to make his life as cosy and comfortable as i can. I'm really looking forward to it now. Hope we survive, lol, spending so much time together in the truck on the road for days on end. With my ex, a non-trucker, we couldn't even take a 1/2hr trip to the shops without bickering all the way. He was a grumpy ol' man, lol. Phew, it was very emotionally draining! Eventually, i flatly refused to go anywhere in the car with him. So, i hope my new partner isn't a whinger when he's got his partner sitting next to him constantly, lol. Luckily, i am a quiet peace loving gal who hates grief, drama, and nagging, but some people like my ex, just love to gee me up to get me going. It's like they want me to be as miserable as them, lol. Cheers from Oz!
Mar 30, 2013
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by: Jacki

We have had a good chat, and i have decided that i am going to be his travel buddy. I can't share the driving, unfortunately, but will do all i can to make his life as cosy and comfortable as i can. I'm really looking forward to it now. Hope we survive, lol, spending so much time together in the truck on the road for days on end. With my ex, a non-trucker, we couldn't even take a 1/2hr trip to the shops without bickering all the way. He was a grumpy ol' man, lol. Phew, it was very emotionally draining! Eventually, i flatly refused to go anywhere in the car with him. So, i hope my new partner isn't a whinger when he's got his partner sitting next to him constantly, lol. Luckily, i am a quiet peace loving gal who hates grief, drama, and nagging, but some people like my ex, just love to gee me up to get me going. It's like they want me to be as miserable as them, lol. Cheers from Oz!
Mar 23, 2013
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by: Lavenia

Before making any harsh moves, talk to him tell him how you feel see what he has to say. Anyway you could go with him on the road. I'm also in my 50 and my husband also is a trucker, Its not an easy life but if you care for him just talk to him first. I go with my husband when i can and i enjoy it. I hate it when he's gone but i love him and will do what i have to. It took me awhile to ajust but it can be a good way to keep the feeling good for when he is with you. I wish you luck and i hope this will help..
Mar 22, 2013
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by: Anonymous

My advice to you would be that if you already don't like him being over the road, than be fair to him and to yourself and end it now. You will build resentment and will regret your choice if this is already how you feel.

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